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Recently lost my mum

JM_W
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Don't really know where to begin, but I've been silently dealing with the loss of my mum for 8 months now and it's too hard imagining a world without her. I'm only 21 and it saddens me to think she won't be there to see me get married and won't be there to be the grandma to my children.

 

im at university studying nursing and I know it made her proud that I was giving back. But I feel no one ever has time to talk about grieving and I don't have any other family that I can just pick up the phone to. 

 

I just want want it to get easier? I want someone to talk to that understands.

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    Hello JM_W,

    Welcome to our forum. I am very sorry for your loss and that you are feeling that there is no one you can talk to about your grief at the moment. I hope you find a little comfort in your studies and in knowing that your mum approved of your career choice. I am sure she would be very proud of you. 

    You might be interested to read our information on Coping with Grief . You have definitely come to the right place to meet others who have also lost a parent and who also need to talk to someone about their grief.

    Best wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi JM_W

    I'm sorry to hear about your mum, I lost my mum in July. I'm 27 but I'm not married and I don't have children and it kills me to think my mum won't be there for that. But then I think again and realise that my mum never actually left me, I can still feel her here, I still talk to her and she still manages to give me the advice I need. 

    I sometimes feel like I have nothing new to say. How many times can you repeat how much you miss her, how much it sucks, how much it's not fair, how much you need her? Surely my friends will get bored and not want to hear it again right? 

    Wrong. my friends dad died 4 years ago and she still talks about it a lot, especially around his birthday, christmas and anniversary, and although I didn't fully understand her loss until a couple of months ago, I never once got bored of her talking about him - I always have time for that so I know that she'll always have time for me too.

    Remember that. I know sometimes it feels you can't talk about it cos there's nothing new to really say but a true friend will listen to you say the same thing 1,000 times a day if it helps you

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