I remember talking to a counsellor about this, my dad has a terminal cancer diagnosis and I often struggle with numbness too, especially when I get bad news. The counsellor put it in these terms to me, that if there was someone with a broken leg, who was in an immense amount of pain, wouldn't they take pain killers? Sometimes pain is too deep and too intense and we react by becoming numb. It's normal and there's nothing to worry about. I often find myself feeling guilty for feeling nothing, but again bringing it back to the broken leg analogy, would you get angry at someone for not feeling pain from a physical injury? Would you ask them not to take pain killers or rest in certain positions if it made it so that they weren't in constant pain?
I am so sorry for your loss, and I really hope this was any help.
i am so sorry for the loss of your dad. Don't want to probe but here if you want to chat/scream/whatever - if you would prefer private message me.
my dad got diagnosed in February of stage 4 lung cancer, I have been so distraught too, I don't know what to say to friends I have kind of disappeared a little. I think however you feel would be normal we all grieve in different ways.
