Syl, I know we would have been out walking or doing the garden my heart is broken. How can people say don't think that way when our husbands are constantly on our minds, they just don't understand how lonely it is.  Take care  xxx Debbie 

We were perfect together we only found each other 12 years ago it was a holiday romance my husband was Spanish I'm English but I've been living in Spain for 11years I today we had a memorial service at the church in our village many people there he was very popular and then had to come home alone done nothing but cry since I got in  miss him so much 

Hi wishy be kind to your self its early days for you yet its nearly 3 month since my husband died,it only seems like yesterday some days are harder than others every body says take one day at a time ,this is good advice .take care Syl x

Hi

I lost my husband almost 3 months ago to this awful disease, he was diagnosed on a Tuesday and died on the Saturday. He was told he had stage 4 liver cancer. The only symptom he had pain on the right part of his stomach and went to hospital and was told he had gallstones but also had shadows on his liver. After a biopsy he was told it was stage 4 liver cancer. He didn't suffer but I can't believe he has gone. The waves of grief are horrendous, my heart goes out to you .

Syl,

Glad you managed to have a nice time with your family, but yes your husband should be there to enjoy it with you, that's the hard thing nothing is the same.  I had a bad week week just totally devasted there is absolutely nothing to look forward to, just try to keep busy, but it's as though nothing has any meaning anymore, just get up go to work, go home watch tv go to bed and repeat, then dread weekends just can't imagine doing this for the rest of my life i'm so bloody sad!  Take care xxxxx Debbie

At least you have work to take your mind off things for a few hours , im on my own all day i  try to keep busy but its hard ,i go to a friendship group once a fortnight  we have outings and speakers  have  been going now for about three years is there nothing like that where you live ,it could help it helps me to keep going.the night time is the worse i wonder round the house like a lost soul . regards Syl x

I know how you feel  its  three month since i lost my husband some days you feel ok then you seem to go back to squere one, people say take one day at a time and  be kind to yourself and thats all we can do  take care Syl 

Thanks I do try to take each day at a time and as you know it's really hard the last 3 night's have been awful for me I seem to be going over his last week when he was in hospital yes the first couple of nights he suffered a lot but then the last 4 night's he was sedated he had stage 4 lung cancer I kept talking to him all the time I'm struggling with the fact did he hear me did he know I was holding his hand right to the very end I miss him so much he was only 49    cancer sucks!

Yes its awful my husband had lung cancer then it went to his brain,we were married nearly 46 years i try to keep busy the nights are the worse its lonely  on your own even though my kids are good to me they cant be with me 24 hours a day . take care Syl x