Sylvia

My husband died 9 wk ago  my kids are very good  but life isnt the same  now i miss him so much  i just wish he could come back  and let me know he is ok 

  • Hi Jules ,hope you enjoy your visit with your daughter and a belated birthday lunch with your son I went out for my tea on Wednesday with the kids has it was my 72nd birthday 1st September went to a local restaurant called Oliver's lovely meal even had a gin and tonic with my meal it was a nice change going out for tea . hope you managed to go the crem for your anniversary the years go so quick some times I don't know where the year's go ,my friend who I have a coffee with on a Friday is in Rhodes at the moment her daughter is getting married there Friday 23of them there so it should be a good do she is not back till Wednesday a nice break after the wedding.i have been into town today haven't been for a few weeks went into the market to get a piece of chicken and a pork chop will freeze them for next week.its supposed to rain tomorrow and all next week we could do with rain it seems ages since we had a good downpour my lawns have lost all there colour there isn't much grass at the back it could do with retufing but I'm not doing it lol my daughter and her partner are away Sunday there going to France for four days will be a nice change has they haven't been away this year I am out and about with her tomorrow while she gets a few things probably doing my own dinner Sunday hope you enjoy London with your friend from new Zealand have a lovely week regards Syl x

  • Hi Syl

    Glad you got out for a lovely meal and drink. Really lifts you up to have a social time out with good company. Had a lovely few days with my daughter and family and had trips to the park with the boys whilst she attended teacher training days.  The boys are now back at school and she has begun her new job as a Teaching Assistant so fingers crossed all will continue to go smoothly. Unfortunately the day after my return (when I had hoped to get to the crem) I was stricken with a short lived but horrid bug so had to be close to the bathroom.  I will go this week instead.  Yesterday I was in London for the day and it was wonderful to be back there.  I had a long morning walking St James's Park and surrounding area before meeting up with a workmate from the 70s who is over from New Zealand. After lunch we did a tour of the State Rooms at Buckingham Palace followed by coffee in the garden cafe there.  I covered 13 plus miles on foot, took over 300 photos whilst in the park (obviously no photos allowed inside the palace but were able to take them in the gardens).  After leaving my friend at about 4 pm I then did some more walking before catching the underground home.  Today has been a bit less full with just a gym session and walk to the Post Office to collect a parcel. In and out of the garden inbetween downpours/thunderstorm so no watering necessary this week especially as they say more showers due this week.  Next planned day out is with another old workmate on Thursday and looks as though we will be dodging showers as we do various visits.  Will be lovely to catch up on our family news though.

    Hope you have a good week and that your daughter and her partner enjoyed their break away.

    Tomorrow my grand-daughter has her plaster cast removed and the pins removed from her arm break. Don't envy either her or my son and daughter in law having to go through this but thankfully once the pins are out it will mean the break has healed well.  It will be a worry for a while that she does no more damage to the weakened elbow area. She has coped so well and even went back to school today and am sure there would have been lots of interest from her playmates/teacher.  Fingers crossed tomorrow goes smoothly for them all.

    Wishing you a good week ahead.  Best regards.  Jules x

  • Hi Jules,this is just a short email my sister died on the 8 th September never in a million years did I think she was going to die I thought she would go into hospital examined and sent home with antibiotics but it wasn't meant to be so sad so heartbreaking will email you in soon take care regards Syl x

  • Hello Syl,

    I'm sorry to hear about your sister and to send my condolences on behalf of everyone at Cancer Chat. It can be such a shock losing a loved one, but the forum is always here for you. If you need to speak to someone the Cruse beareavement helpline is 0808 808 1677 and free to use.

    Thinking of you at this difficult time,

    Moderator Anastasia

  • Hi Syl

    So sad to read your news.  Sending condolences to you and your family during this time of grieving. Keeping you in my thoughts.

    Jules 

  • Hi Syl, Just a short note to let you know I am thinking about you during this very sad time. I am sure your immediate family and friends are helping you process the suddenness at your Sister's passing.  Take care.  Jules x

     

  • H Jules thank your for your kind words it was her funeral yesterday Wednesday it was a lovely service so sad but so many happy memories of when we were young her partner daughter and granddaughter did it together,I think the hard part was her going into hospital and not coming home ,no one expected her to die I still can't get my head round it ,even though we didn't see much of one another we took it in turns to ring each other every day I do miss that . hope you and your family are well I went out with the kids last Sunday for dinner it was a nice change especially with all the sadness at the moment ,I have been going to the community centre and my dementia group I thought it would be better to carry on doing them rather than sit at home thinking about things my daughter is going to take me to a garden centre on Saturday so am looking forward to that we will probably have something to eat while we're there,the weather isn't too bad at the moment my lawns could do with a cut but it has forecast rain here all week . hope you're still looking after all the little animals that are coming into your garden have a lovely week regards Syl x

  • Hi Syl,

    Sounds as though the family gave your sister a beautiful celebration of her life. Always emotional but having good memories are everything as we know. A sudden passing is a shock and the grieving period that follows hard (my sister in law's death was unexpected and within an hour of hearing she had had a fall she passed away in the ambulance enroute to hospital). I also found that is helps to keep busy or to a routine and being around people at your various groups must be a comfort.

    Glad you have had a catch up with the children too and enjoy the garden centre (I love going and rarely leave empty handed ha ha). There is no cafe at our small local one but is within distance of my favourite nature reserve where I can can eat if I wish.  I saw son and family last weekend and he cooked a beautiful lamb shank dinner; made a lovely change.  This weekend I am doing my own thing.  Was due to meet a group of friends for an outing but the rail strike put paid to that!! Just about to go to the charity shop with a few bags of clothes as have had a clear out now that my weight has come down.  A really good feeling I can tell you!!

    The birds and a squirrel are still regulars and enjoying the feeders as it turned a little cooler this week. Warmer again today after an evening/night of heavy rain.There are still three different foxes passing through the night garden so have to rely on the night camera to watch them.  Thankfully I managed to mow the lawn during the week on a bright dry day and got all the washing done and dry outside too.  Today has begun with sunshine and I took a walk as I often do before an early breakfast. Meeting friends for coffee at 9.30 so need to get ready again to go out.  Hope your week passes smoothly and sending best wishes. Take care. Jules x

    Hope you have a good weekend

  • Hi Jules,I did go out with the kids on Sunday it took my mind of the sadness for a few hours went to my dementia group Wednesday every one was very nice we had a lovely afternoon playing play your cards right so much fun I did enjoy it .glad you enjoyed your time with your son and family the Sunday dinner sounded yummy it is nice to have a Sunday dinner cooked for you , sorry to hear your outting was cancelled it is a nuisance when the railways go on strike the country seems to be in turmoil at the moment now there on about black outs in the middle of winter which isn't good .glad you have still have the foxes passing threw your garden and squirrels as well ,I have a couple come into my garden pinching the bird food then burying it in the garden to when it gets really cold I scarified my lawn then mowed it last week I'm hoping that's it now till spring. I'm dog sitting Saturday my son and daughter are going out with friends for a meal late afternoon I'm hoping they won't be back to late ,but at least I will have some dog company for a few hours lol not sure if I'm out for dinner Sunday it depends on how the kids feel has there will be a drinking session with the meal . have a lovely week regards Syl x

  • Hi Syl,

    Pleased you were able to go out with your children and agree it is often easier to be busy to take your mind off things.  I saw both children and their families last weekend. Had a sleepover at my son's to keep daughter inlaw company as he was away overnight on a bushcraft camp with friends.  Went and watched the 4 and 6 yr old have their swimming lesson so a nice change for me.  Took my mind of my Covid booster jab site too lol.  On Sunday my daughter and two grandsons came for the day and we went out to lunch Three of us had Tapas and there was macaroni cheese off the kids menu for one!  We were able to walk there and back so lots of exercise too.  This week has been just the usual so far with gym sessions and walks and no plans as yet for the coming weekend so just take each day as it comes.  Still being entertained by the foxes on the night camera and the bird feeding stations which have become busier with the cooler starts in the mornings.  Tonight I have been  making soup as prefer this  for my lunches at this time of year. Tomorrow evening's slim club at the gym has been cancelled so will weigh in on Friday to keep the records straight!  Take care.  Jules x