Syliva, I am so very sorry for your loss, I know how it feels, my husband passed away in October and I miss him so much, I too wish they could let us know they are ok.  There are lots of people on here going through the same terrible time who will offer support.  Sending love to you Debbie xxxxxx

Hi debbie, how are you havnt heard off you in a while i feel ok at the moment health wise ,got to go the hospital next month  to see about my breathing me and the kids just having a quite xmas dinner we will go to the crem  to put flowers on my parents grave ,we will put some flowers in a vase for my hubby ,it is my hubbys birthday on the 27 dec  might go for a walk weather permiting  to a place called spike island my hubby used to like watching the mersey from there .  Take care  have a peaceful xmas  will be thinking of you  Syl x

Hi Jules, glad your ok  and you had a quiet weekend ,I'm glad everything is back to normal now I enjoyed my first swimming aerobics,and my community centre is back on my friend won the raffle a box of baubles lol she is going to put them away for next year,my friendship group is back on Monday so that is all of them back now.how long has your hubby been gone now Jules? it's nearly 3 years for me I can't believe it's been that long and yet sometimes it feels like yesterday.it is sad for your mum my mum was also in a home it's not nice too see them ,but we have to remember them how they used to be. glad your back in the gym and keeping fit again, the weather hasn't been to bad this week, it's been a bit dull most of the week which doesn't help ,as it feels as if it  doesn't get proper day light,will nip into town tomorrow for a bit of shopping ,then weather permitting will take George out for a walk ,will see my daughter Sunday as she is doing a Sunday roast have a nice weekend regards syl  x

Hi Syl

Hope you had a lovely Sunday roast with your daughter.  It is nice when you have company for a meal.

It was 4 years on 3 January since hubby died and like you I do wonder at times as to where that time has gone.The 'special dates' do tend to bring everything flooding back but then got myself together again and moving forward into 2019.  It is what he would have wanted and is how I cope in the main.

The usual routine helps I think to keep us on the straight and narrow and I am lucky to still have things to do and places to go when I am not working.  I have a week off and am catching up with old friends, a visit to the cinema, catching up with my daughter in law and the grandchildren on Wednesday as well as fitting in the usual visit to Mum. Other plans in the making but will depend on the weather later in the week.

Take care, Jules x

Hi Jules,it's ten o clock in th evening so thought I would send you a e mail while waiting for the news to come on .I enjoyed my Sunday with my daughter and the roast was nice as well,my son has been working from  his home the last two days he has been at mine in the evening for his tea, it was nice to have his company for a few days,he goes back to his partners tomorrow(Friday) I am going to the crem Friday as it's my dad's birthday so will put flowers  in his plot ,I should have gone with my sister but she is full of a cold . It's nearly 3 years since my hubby died,and like you things and memories come  flooding back,a lot of people say to me it doesn't get easier you just learn to live with it which I think is true. I am going to do a bit of shopping Saturday this week as I am at the crem Friday then in my friends for coffee,think my daughter and myself might go out Sunday don't know where yet  it depends on the weather we will probably have lunch in a pub somewhere local .enjoy your weekend regards syl x

Hi Syl,

Just waiting for a friend to arrive before heading out for our meal at the local indian restaurant.  Has been a busy week with three meals out, visiting Mum, who had been very poorly indeed over the weekend (she has now agreed to take the antibiotics prescribed so hoping that helps).  Am out to lunch with another friend tomorrow before visiting friends this weekend.

My two work days were very busy but helps the time pass quickly.  I have a week off in both February and March to finish of holiday days due before the new rotation begins in April.  Will wait to see what the weather brings before planning too much.

Hope you have a peaceful weekend and did not get too much snow (if any) this week.  There was a light dusting here but all gone the following day which made travelling about easier.  Take care. Jules x

Hi Jules,sounds as if you had a busy week having nice meals out with friends,sorry your mum hasn't been to good it is a worry when someone you love  isn't well ,but at least now she is on antibiotics which should help .not much happening here at the moment have just booked a holiday for me and my friend to Norfolk with Alfa coaches ,it's not till June so it is something to look forward to have been to town this morning to the opticians as have  been having trouble with my eyes my eyes are fine he said I have what you call dry eyes so he has give me drops to put in ,I am seeing my daughter tomorrow for dinner,then Monday I am at my friendship group weather not to good at the moment but still managing to take george out for his walks,have a nice weekend regards syl x

Hi Syl

Was a lovely socialable few days catching up with old friends and then had a meal with my son and family on Monday evening out of the blue so feel very lucky indeed.  Now need to get back on track with my eating/exercise plans ha ha.

It's nice to have your holiday to look forward to in June (I am away that month for my annual break too).

Hope the eye drops are doing the trick as dry eyes can be very irritating.  It also reminded me that I need to get my routine opticians check sorted out.  I have some holiday days coming up next month so maybe I will tick that box.

Another work shift to complete tomorrow and then I a going to try and do some work around the house and garden (weather permitting).  Very cold today but no more snow yet..Hope you have having a peaceful week and enjoy the upcoming weekend.  Take care. Jules x

Hi Jules ,it's cold here at the moment as well only had George out a few times this week,we had snow one day but it disappeared  the next day all the kids in the. crescent where I live were out making snow men , but they didn't last long. have. been to the. Vets this week with my cat as she has got a abscess on her neck they have drained it ,I have got to bathe it twice a day she has also got a big color on so she doesn't scratch it ,I feel sorry for her she is looking very forlorn at the moment,have got to take her back Sunday,I hope the color can come off,but I'm not hopeful it might have to stay on a  bit longer.my son has been home for a few days as he has been busy at work,he has been coming mine for his tea which is nice ,next week he is in Southampton for the week.am at my daughter's Sunday for dinner after I have been the vets her partner is coming with me to carry the pet carrier as it's quite heavy especially with my cat jumping about trying to get out lol enjoy your weekend regards syl x

Hi Syl,

Hope you have managed to stay warm during the chilly spell.  The snow reached us on Thursday night so I did get through my work days without problems.  Friday I stayed in and only ventured into the garden to top up the feeders and keep the birdbaths de-iced (yes they kept on bathing!!).  A routine weekend with shopping, the gym visits and then a lovely walk on Sunday around the icy local Lido.  Most of the snow had already gone.

[[]]

After a hot chocolate to warm up with in the lakeside cafeI walked on to the garden centre before hopping on the bus back home (heavy bag of bird food supplies!!).

No plans this week other than usual work shifts but am on holiday next week to use up more of my allocated 2018 days off (must be used by end of March and still have another week to take).  Will have a look and see if there is anywhere I fancy going to depending on the weather.

Hope the return  visit to the vet went well and that your cat  was able to lose the collar.  They are a nuisance but very helpful in keeping the area 'safe' from those paws!.  No doubt you enjoyed the meal with your daughter afterwards.

Have a peaceful week and take care.  Jules x

Hi Jules, lovely photo even in the middle of winter there is some  lovely places to visit , my cat is much better now  and it's healing  hope the collar comes off when I take her back tomorrow,but she has taken the collar off herself  a few times this week and I have had to put it back on it was funny how she did it ,she lay on the floor and got it over her head with her paws maybe not has daft  as people think they are lol. Havnt had George out much this week came down with a cough and cold  so didn't feel up to taking him out plus we have had a lot of wind and rain this week,I managed to go my swimming aerobics Thursday then did a bit of shopping,but most of the week have just stayed in and watched T V. hope you enjoy your week off work it's always nice to have time off from work and enjoy not having to go out at a set time. not got anything planned for the weekend might stay in Sunday  and raid my freezer for my Sunday lunch in stead of going out while I have still got my cold enjoy your weekend  regards Syl x

Hi Syl,

Love the fact that your cat has managed to remove the protective collar.  Hopefully it is now off for good and she is better too.  Have not had any pets myself since the children left home as would find them a bit of a tie but would never say never in the future if I was indoors more.

Had a pretty quiet weekend with just usual trips for shopping and the gym.  On Monday I met a friend for coffee and catch up which are always enjoyable. Tuesday was usual visit to Mum and the gym afterwards.  Yesterday, being on holiday from work this week, I went to Kew Gardens. They have an orchid festival on and it was a lovely day for walking too so spent nearly 5hrs there before heading home.

Have been chatting to my daughter this morning as it is her birthday and am almost ready to go for a walk as the sun is shining and too nice to be indoors.  May get some time in my garden later though it was a frosty start so mowing still on hold.  I can at least do some weeding.

Hope  you are having a peaceful week and wish you a pleasant weekend.  Regards, Jules x

Hi Syl,

Love the fact that your cat has managed to remove the protective collar.  Hopefully it is now off for good and she is better too.  Have not had any pets myself since the children left home as would find them a bit of a tie but would never say never in the future if I was indoors more.

Had a pretty quiet weekend with just usual trips for shopping and the gym.  On Monday I met a friend for coffee and catch up which are always enjoyable. Tuesday was usual visit to Mum and the gym afterwards.  Yesterday, being on holiday from work this week, I went to Kew Gardens. They have an orchid festival on and it was a lovely day for walking too so spent nearly 5hrs there before heading home.

Have been chatting to my daughter this morning as it is her birthday and am almost ready to go for a walk as the sun is shining and too nice to be indoors.  May get some time in my garden later though it was a frosty start so mowing still on hold.  I can at least do some weeding.

Hope  you are having a peaceful week and wish you a pleasant weekend.  Regards, Jules x

Hi Jules, my cat is fine now took her back to the vet over the weekend and she has been discharged now thank goodness , haven't done much my self this week went to my friendship group Monday we had a social morning just chatting  then we had a game of bingo I won some sweets which I passed on to my son ,my son has been home most of the week has he is very busy at the moment,I managed to go out with him last Sunday to a local pub for a carvery which was very nice.glad you enjoyed your trip to Kew gardens I have heard of it  bet it's nice to visit.the weather has been a lot better this week  George has had all is walks  this week for a change , I am going into my local town tomorrow Friday just for a bit of shopping ,then hopefully after dinner will  go in my friends for coffee,not got anything planned for the weekend up to now,it's my community group Monday with my two friends  for lunch and a game of bingo have a nice weekend regards Syl x

Hi Syl

Another nice weekend weatherwise which certainly makes it easier being out and about.  I was up with  my daughter and family so good to  catch up with them as had not seen them since New Year. Our shopping plans (my daughter's birthday gift) were slightly curtailed as she put her back out earlier last week and this is very painful and has limited her mobility.  She is back to the chiropractor today for more manipulation and hopefully this will help.  My grandsons are being as helpful as possible bless them and earning extra stickers towards their pocket money. They are on half term this week and due to visit my son in laws family at the end of the week which is about a three hour drive.  They will no doubt have to stop several times en route to allow my daughter to stretch out!

Good to hear that your cat is well again and I am sure George has been enjoying his sunny walks.

Hope your Monday club is enjoyable today and that you have a good week.  Take care.Jules xx

Hi Jules , hope your daughter is ok with her back I know what its like  as I have trouble with my back as well sometimes it aches so have to take pain killers, have taken George out every day this week as the weather has been really nice which is unusual for this time of year,even managed to cut my lawn and do a bit of weeding ,I am at the crem tomorrow as my hubby has been dead 3 years [Saturday] even though he isn't there I will put flowers in a vase and look at the remembrance book as I put a verse in for him.I can't believe 3 years have past since I seen him or heard his voice sometimes it's hard   to imagine  life without him and I pray for a sign that he is all right, but it never happens. my son has been home all week has he is very busy with work as the moment,having said that him and his partner are in Prague for a long weekend then at the beginning of March he is in Norway for a few days with work. think I am at my daughter's Sunday for dinner if its nice we might go for a walk somewhere have a nice weekend regards Syl x

Hi Syl

I am sure Saturday was a mixed day of emotional memories for you and the family but somehow we manage day to day.

The weather has certainly helped these last few days and, like you, I have tried to make the most of it both in the garden (yes I too have mowed the lawn) and out walking.   My weekend was pretty routine so it was shopping, gym visits and then on Sunday I went walking for nearly three hours.  Felt a lot better for it.Yesterday I spent time weeding the borders and now the green waste has been collected so can do a bit more today.

Yesterday evening I went out for a meal with a couple of friends so was lovely to catch up and  not have to cook. As I have a relatives' meeting at Mum's care home this evening I will skip my visit this morning and pop to see her before the meeting starts leter.  It has been three weeks running that she has slept through my visit so maybe fourth week lucky.  Sadly even when awake she rarely speaks to anyone now; it is just so very sad.

A frosty start here today but already the sun is warming things up so will go to my gym soon and then get back into the garden whilst I can.  Have to make the most of the good days at this time of year.

Have a good week and take care.  Jules x

Hi Jules, glad you had a few. days in your garden its funny the weather has been warm  this time of year we have had a bit of rain this week but it's not cold really I believe there's a storm coming  called freya on Sunday afternoon. I was at the crem again Friday as it was my mum's bithday so we put flowers  my parents plot,I stayed at my sister's for a coffee then back home.I also went to the vets with my daughter  on Thursday as her bunny hasn't been well unfortunately the vet felt to lumps  in her stomach which the vet thought were tumours given her age he thought it best to but her to sleep,so there was tiers all round she was a real character in sure my daughter will miss  her being in the house.think I am out with my daughter Saturday as her partner is having a boys weekend in Amsterdam till Sunday, think we are going to a shopping centre then maybe have our tea somewhere,I am at my community centre Monday for lunch and a game of bingo oh the excitement of it all lol.not much else planned for the week hopefully the weather ok  so I can take George out for his walks.have a nice week regards syl x

Hi Syl,

Well weather back to a more seasonal normal but glad I made the most of the sunshine.  Decided to take myself out for the day last Saturday and enjoyed visiting an area called Little Venice on the Grand Union/Regents Canals before having lunch in a nearby store after four hours walking. Sunday was a gym visit followed by a quick look round the garden centre and stocking up on some bird food as there was 20% off for reward card members.  On Monday was out with my friend from work and we went to Chiswick Park followed by a stroll along the Thames Path and a pub lunch.  Usual visit to Mum on Tuesday morning and then went to see a film, Colette, at 'senior cinema' showing (£3 with coffee and biscuits).  Today turned out far more costly as had my 2yr eye test and need new prescription but am very happy with the new frames I have chosen.  Pick them up in a couple of weeks.

Sorry to read about your daughter's rabbit; always hard when you have to say goodbye to a beloved pet.  Hope you enjoyed your Saturday outing and found somewhere nice for tea.  Was the Monday bingo another win for you? Still good to be able to socialise.

Have a good weekend.  Regards  Jules x
 

Hi Jules, sounds as if you had a nice few days with friends,I'm glad you enjoyed your long walk I don't think I could manage 4hrs with my lungs even though I enjoy taking George out its only about 35 minutes long. I enjoyed my outing with my daughter we went to a big retail park called Cheshire oaks my daughter bought 2 tops and a pair of trainers, we had a lovely walk round and a coffee,on the way back we called at a country pub for tea.the weather here has changed as well back to normal temperatures now as well as rain,don't think I will be taking George out today as its pouring with rain,  my daughter is away this weekend  to a spa hotel as its her birthday Monday so will go into town tomorrow to buy her a few things and will put some money in her card as well. went to my swimming aerobics class Monday thought I would do a extra class this week at the end of the session she told us she was giving the Monday one up ,went to my community centre for my meal and bingo with my friends when we got there we were told it was the last one due to financial reasons so all in all it wasn't a good day .hope you have a nice weekend  regards Syl x

Hi Syl

Hope you had a peaceful weekend and expect you will  be looking forward to hearing all about your daughter's spa weekend.  Has been nearly 12 years since I went on one of these (it was my daughter's Hen do) but can remember how relaxing I found it.  A nice birthday treat for her.

How sad that a couple of the things you enjoy going go have had to finish.  These little get togethers become so important to us as part of filling our time so I hope you can find something in the local area to replace them.  I think you do very well to manage those walks with George and am sure he enjoys them as much as you do.   I only managed one good walk over the weekend on Saturday as the awful windy weather yesterday made it too unpleasant to go on the walk I had already planned.  I had to content myself with a gym visit and mowing the lawn by way of exercise.

I am meeting a friend this morning and going into a part of London she needs to visit to buy some specialist yarn for a project she is doing.  It turns out to be in an area I know very well from my childhood as my Dad worked there over 55 years ago and I used to go in with him on Saturday mornings.  Did some research online and his workplace is now a boat club (it's by the side of the Regents Canal) so we are going for a stroll down memory lane ha ha. Thankfully the sun is shining today so should be pleasant.

Have a pleasant week and take care.  Jules x

Hi Jules,I haven't been out much this week because of the wind I was going to go out Saturday but it was raining really heavy and. blowing agale  ,Sunday made my self a Sunday dinner as my daughter wasn't back till Monday tea time they had a nice weekend and a relaxing massage as well.hope you enjoyed your trip into London with your friend and your memories from your childhood ,it's nice to remember when  you were young oh how things have changed would be nice if we could  go back to them days sometimes, my swimming aerobics is still continuing on Thursday she also does Tuesday mornings and Tuesday evenings so might add a Tuesday morning as well, have managed to take George out this morning even though it's still windy it was dry ,it's supposed to rain later.my son is in Wales  at the moment with his job he is back Friday I'm not sure where he is next week. hopefully I can go out Saturday to my local town fingers crossed the wind dies down ,Sunday I am hoping to go out with my daughter and her partner for Sunday dinner,have a nice week regards Syl x

Hi Syl,

Am taking the chance to reply during a lull in the high winds as my internet has been in and out of reception the last few days.  Not enjoying walking too much at the moment but still making myself get out there albeit for a somewhat shorter stroll and avoiding the woods for fear of being clobbered by a branch!!  thankfully today has dawned beautifully sunny so will go out soon and get a good walk in today at least.

Really enjoyed my day out with my friend Margaret last Monday and it was lovely seeing how my dad's workplace had been 'reborn' as a boating club and a green space for all to enjoy.In the park they had plaques giving the history of his company and the part it played in various medical breakthrough. My Dad worked there both pre and post war and would have been so proud to have seen this. This was his place of work for all his working life until made redundant at 58 whenit was taken over and he and Mum would not uproot to the new premises.  He effectively was then retired. After having a stroll around and a coffee in the canalside pub we followed the towpath and then caught the tube to Kings Cross so that I could see how the area had been redeloped; it was certainly an improvement on my childhood view!!

Glad you will still have some classes to attend and hope you managed to get into town yesterday.Fingers crossed you get your Sunday meal and a chat with your daughter and partner. I will not be seeing family this weekend but hopefully my daughter and family are popping down next Friday for an overnight stop so will catch up then.  I am spending the last weekend in March with my son and my grandchildren which will be a long awaited get together as have not seen them since the end of January.  My daughter in law is away on her sister'sHen weekend so an extra pair of hands will be welcome I am sure.  Unbelievably  his youngest is now 8mths old and my grand-daughter will be 3 in May. Hubby would have been so proud of them all and how far we have come. He would have been 68 at the beginning of April so soon time to visit his resting place.  I have once again renewed the owl adoption in his memory this  year. It was my last birthday present to him and seems fitting to continue his support/memory in this way.

Right it is nearly 9am so better get myself out of the door.  Have a peaceful week. Regards. Jules x