Syliva, I am so very sorry for your loss, I know how it feels, my husband passed away in October and I miss him so much, I too wish they could let us know they are ok.  There are lots of people on here going through the same terrible time who will offer support.  Sending love to you Debbie xxxxxx

Hi debbie, how are you havnt heard off you in a while i feel ok at the moment health wise ,got to go the hospital next month  to see about my breathing me and the kids just having a quite xmas dinner we will go to the crem  to put flowers on my parents grave ,we will put some flowers in a vase for my hubby ,it is my hubbys birthday on the 27 dec  might go for a walk weather permiting  to a place called spike island my hubby used to like watching the mersey from there .  Take care  have a peaceful xmas  will be thinking of you  Syl x

Hi Jules, my problem with my ears has been sorted, you  wont believe it  something had  crawled into my ear in the night, i had to go to A & E while they flushed it out ,i still dont know what it was as far as i could see  it was only wax that came out but it seems ok now.the problem with my back started a couple of week ago i have a scan at the end of the month,  it doesnt seem as bad  since i went the doctors typical isnt it.? I have just had george out for his walk the sun is out here at the moment, getting ready to go over my friends for coffee. Hope you enjoy your break with your friends it does you good  to get away its a nice change away from the normal every day chores  that we do.hope your mum is ok at least she is in good hands let me know  where  your going regards Syl x

Hi Syl,

So pleased that the issue with your ear has been sorted and hope there is no recurrence of an univited guest 'popping in'.  Hopefully the back scan will just confirm that everything has returned to normal by the time your appointment comes around.  A few years ago I had a trapped nerve in my back which was agony and I found it very tiring being on long term painkillers but no other treatment was necessary.

My weekend away was lovely and was spent in Stratford upon Avon.  Got to the hotel by lunchtime and had a pretty lazy afternoon before joining the rest of the guests for a carvery evening meal followed by disco.  On Saturday my friends and I headed out after a hearty breakfast.  It remained dry and we walked around town and visited the butterfly farm as planned.  Afterwards we stopped for a coffee and cake (lunch) before they headed off to visit Ann Hathaway's Cottage.  I had been there before on a previous visit to the area so went walking by the river as well as taking a mini cruise down it.  Lovely. Popped in for a cuppa at the Royal Shakespeare Company's riverside cafe and then strolled around town before heading back to change for the evening do.  Drinks reception was at 6pm and then banquet and cabaret followed by music/dancing till midnight.  The event raised over £1500 for Prostate Cancer which was brilliant.   We left after another big breakfast this morning and after a cuppa at my friends house I caught the train home. Very enjoyable.  Now catching up with my mail before settling down for a quiet evening.

Hopefully catching up with my daughter tomorrow.  She has a really nasty inflamation in her eye and has to have drops for 8 weeks with the first week being every 2hrs so will keep her company when she takes her youngest for his jabs in the morning.

Hope you have had a pleasant weekend. Take care.  Jules xx   

Hi Jules, glad you enjoyed your  break me and hubby loved stratford upon avon, we have done all the things  you did  while you were there, it fetched back so many  memories. Hope your daughter is ok with her eyes, my sister has a  few problems with her eyes as well  she goes to the hospital every 3 month for check ups . have felt quite  up set  for a couple of days spent a lot of  time crying been on my own  as well  i dont think that helps, went out for a meal  Sunday  with a few of  the girls i used to work  with i had to force  my self to go but it was nice to catch up with them and i was glad i went  in the end . Not took george out for a few days as his family are away for a few days he has gone to stay  with there dad till they come back,but i have got a bunny rabbit  staying with me at the moment,its a indoor  rabbit its in my living room in a cage  so i am talking to him at the moment lol, he his going back to my daughters  thursday morning there have been to Prague for a few days.i will be going swimming aerobics  later hope i can cheer my self up a bit  and not feel as sad as i have been just  lately  enjoy your week regards Syl x

Hi Syl

Hope you are feeling a little better now.  I do go out whatever the weather  as find this helps a great deal. I have never been one for staying indoors so suppose it's in my nature to have this bit of routine in my life.  I perhaps had the added advantage of spending quite a bit of time on my own even when hubby was alive as he travelled on business sometimes for up to a month at a time over many years.  I do definitely miss the spontineity of conversation though and my friends must think I chat an awful lot when we get together... hope they understand though.  Have also had some inner struggles with my emotions as my Mum is not doing so well and it is hard watching another family member struggling with illness.Just keeping busy to try and cope the best I can.

Things pretty busy within the family just now as my daughter's house move grows closer.  Should be on the 31st and I will have Zack for the day to keep him out of mischief during the moving day bedlam.  My eldest grandson is going to help!!  At the moment it is a case of trying to keep them as calm as possible.

Yesterday I took the tube and buses over to spend some time with my daughter in law and Darcey. My son took half days annual leave and after  going out with his camera for a bit then joined us for a lovely walk over the country park (2mins walk from their house).  A couple of hours later and we were enjoying time together. After they settled baby down for the night  we had a home made curry for dinner before  my daughter in law dropped me home (buses stop running early evening where they are and they wont let me get a taxi). This was our first catch up since the wedding so plenty to talk about. Will see them again in a couple of weeks when I have invited them over for lunch.

Today I have done my weekly shopping and now as the sun has broken through may well head out into the garden for a bit. Tomorrow I have daughter and family for a quick lunch so will catch up on all their news then.

On Monday I am going into London to visit some museums/galleries and have lunch with a friend.  This replaces our planned trip to Cambridge which was cancelled by the operator a week or two back due to lack of numbers.  Hopefully will do it in the future but may go by train now that we both have Rail Saver cards.

Well have rambled on long enough so hope you are enjoying your weekend. Take care. Jules xx

Hi  Jules, glad your ok  and you enjoyed time with your family over the week end,sorry your mum isnt  to well at the moment, its awful when parents  become unwell  and  there is nothing you can do to help them, i know  the feeling with both my mum and dad. you sound as if your  fliting about here and there you sound that busy you are going to meet your self coming back LOL, i think it does you good  to keep busy , sometimes i feel quite lonely with not enough  to fill the void in my life since hubby died. have had a cry again this week end i cant seem to move on  just lately , also its my weddimg anniversary  on the 21st  we would have been married 47 yrs it seems a life time ago now. went to my daughters yesterday for my sunday dinner it was very nice she is comeing down later to fetch me a chocolate pudding she made  yesterday  so i will have it after my tea. my son is in Reading today just for the day then tomorrow he is in London again just for the day,hope you enjoy  your day in London,its a long time since i was in the capital im  surmising you dont live far from London. I havnt had george out for a  while as the weather isnt good at the moment, and its  forecast more rain  this week and its going to be cold as well. Regards  Syl x

Hi Syl

Been another busy and emotional week. Mum is frail and now more or less confined to bed (refusing the hoist to move her to a chair for a change).She is sleeping a lot but still eating three meals a day.Pain meds seem to be keeping her comfortable and the care home staff are wonderful.  My daughter came to visit with me on Tuesday though Mum is not talking to anyone now. We got the occasional nod but very sad really.

My daughter andfamily should have been moving  next week but unfortunately they have come across a problem and this needs to be sorted for the purchase to continue.  We are all keeping our fingers crossed that it willbe sorted before the seller decides to put it back on the market again especially as my grandson has already been on a visit to the propsosed new school.  There have been many tears over the last few days but now allwe can do is wait and see if the solicitors can iron out the issues. Why cannot life be good for our youngsters for a change.

Hopefully the improving weather means that George has had your company for walks.  Getting through anniversary dates is always an emotional time and the tears do bring temporary relief.  Had my hubby still be here, he would have been 66 on 2nd April. I will take flowers to his resting place.

Well just waiting for a quote to come through to see if Ican manage to up date the bathroom on a budget!!  This will hopefully give me focus in the summer in between getting back intothe garden.  Lovely out there today and mowed the lawn and did a bit of tidying up. My son and family are coming tolunch tomorrow so off to make apple crumble and prepare the veg now as will pop to see Mum tomorrow morning after my gym visit and before the family arrive. Keeping busy is the best way I know of getting on  with life; it is certainly what hubby would expect of me.

My trip into London went well (it only takes about 45mins on the tube) and my friend and I went to visit the Chelsea Pensioners Hospital, Museum and Gardens as well as having lunch at their cafe.  We had morning coffee on the Kings Road and managed to dodge a couple of little showers.  We now have a list of other places to visit when we go next.  My next planned visit to London is when the Tall Ships are at Greenwich in April  (Easter Weekend) so am looking forward to that.

Take care and enjoy the sunshine.  Jules xx

Hi Jules,  i must have just followed you on to the forum glad you enjoyed your trip to London  its a goog job you wasnt there on that  awful day  on wednesday my son only just missed it ,he was there tuesday, i dispair of humans thats why i love animals so much, cant understand the awful things  we do to one another. Sorry your mum isnt to good at the moment, its all part and parcel of growing old we all have to face it eventually,im sure your daughter  will get things sorted with the house ,these little nigles seem to happen a lot  when  you buy  a property but most things get sorted in the end.you still havnt said  if you live not far from London,have been out for a cream tea today with my friend to a local community centre it was very nice, i had 4 cakes and  sandwiches i cant believe i eaten 4 cakes they were yummy, but they didnt do much for my waist line lol.the kids are taking me out for dinner tomorrow for mothers day to a country pub called the Stretton fox its very nice have been a few times before.  Enjoy your lunch  with your son regards Syl x

Hi Syl

Hope u enjoy your dinner treat. I love country pubs as you can also have a good walk to enjoy the surroundings.

As to where I  live in relation to central London, I am in Middlesex

which is classed as greater London and about 30 mins drive outside the capital. Before I married I lived in NW London and worked in the west end, a Londoner born and bred.Hubby was also born in London though moved to Middlesex as a 3 yr old and we met on a blind date. Those were the days!

Just waiting for the gym to open so will be out walking soon in the sunshine. Hopefully a day  in the garden tomorrow as weather  looks promising and want to get the borders weeded. Take care. Jules xx

Hi Jules, thought i would  e mail you before week end, my mothers day lunch was lovely then we went the crem to put flowers  on  my mums  grave i also put some flowers in a vase for my mum in law . Dont think i am doing much at the week end i have got my daughters rabbit again as she has gone to Amsterdam for a few days  with her partner, she goes to America  next week end  for  three week ,i am a born worrier so i will  be on pins while she is away ,I am also meeting my sons new girlfriend tomorrow he got divorced 2 years ago the  relationship is quite new  but he seems happy and thats all you  wont for them  to be happy.the weather is good at the moment , but its forecast rain  tomorrow if it stays dry  will  do the garden take care and have a nice week end  regards Syl x

Hi Debbie, hope your ok, not feeling to bad at the moment i will admit i have had a few bad days  just lately , i surpose we will feel like that  then you get on with things again. hope your still going to the gym i am still doing swimming aerobics  somtimes i have to force my self to go but once im there im glad i went. let me know your ok  regards  Syl x

Hi Debbie, hope your ok, not feeling to bad at the moment i will admit i have had a few bad days  just lately , i surpose we will feel like that  then you get on with things again. hope your still going to the gym i am still doing swimming aerobics  somtimes i have to force my self to go but once im there im glad i went. let me know your ok  regards  Syl x