Hi Paul

Sorry about your loss and 5 weeks is a shock.

My mum died 6 months this week and seems like 6 minutes. You post sounds like my mum. Mum is my best friend. I am her son I connected well with her. Just because people are there  for their mum doesn't make anyone a mummy's boy. 

My mum had cancer for over 2 years but for the most had been quite well and could do most of the things she wanted. But passed quickly at the end, so it was still a shock to me.

The first months were such a daze.But time does helps the pain. I go to a bereavement group. The pain still comes but less.

My dad died with cancer 10 years this year. That was hard but harder with no parents. I have a brother has help some but he's caused so much trouble to us as a family, he's not much help to me, unless it helps him.

All the best.

I feel so much for you I lost my lovely dad 4 weeks ago I am lost and lonely but I have my mum who I am supporting and she has me keep strong and remember people are going through the same thoughts as you all I can say is my thoughts are with you you are not on your own I hope this helps you a little 

Hi Georgie,

Thanks for the kind words. The pain does feel a bit less as time goes by.

Sorry about your dad. Your not selfish  it's your pain.  I lost dad with cancer 10 years, very hard. Just didn't think cancer would come to mum as well.

It's great you had a good relationship with your mum I was the same with my lovely dad I miss him so much it physically hurts my mum in terrible state am trying so hard for her we haven't spoken to my brother for years he wasn't at my dads funeral that's what happens sometimes with family but all local shopkeepers came from village my dad had more friends than me so I know how you feel instead of my mum it was my dad hope you feeling a little better as each day goes on I have now accepted my dad has gone but I hate the thought my lovely precious dad try and keep smiling I know it's hard

Thanks for your kind words. Sorry about your dad.

You're right about the physical pain and aching inside. Very painful for a few months but does start to ease.

I don't get on with my brother, he came to the funeral. I tried to get on, for some months but he goes off on one. Well i tried for mum.

Went a few days away, this hurt as i had took mum. Looking at the sea i just felt numb the first day.

Hope you and your mum have a little less pain each day. But the pain shows how much you loved them.