Hi Naomi, I'm so sorry that you've lost your beloved  mum. I went through similar back in November and I am still struggling to get my head around it. It's hard to believe when it's so fast isn't it? The most accurate analogy for grief I've heard so far is a comparison with the sea - some days your grief will be rough and stormy and it will consume you but you will keep afloat and there will be days of calm acceptance where the Sun shines and you can smile at things. It's so up and down, I've also not spoken to my partner or friends much, but I've found myself here tonight so I think I want to talk to others who have been through it. My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and died 4 days later, which was 10 days after I'd arrived in Spain to see him. Just know Naomi that there are no set timescales for grief, and don't ever feel like you should be 'over it' by a certain point in time, I think when you lose someone so precious that you never get over it but you just learn to live alongside it. Massive hugs to you and everyone else who is missing their beloved family members xxxxx

Hi there, the analogy is quite accurate. I still can't believe my dad has gone. He went 3 days after diagnosis, I wasn't ready for him to leave. I struggle with it all. No notice that he was going so quickly and the hardest bit, no goodbye! Just simply here one minute and gone the next. How does that happen??? I tell myself it would of been easier on us left behind if it wasn't so sudden. Or if we had longer for the diagnosis to sink in. It's hard to talk to your partners in some ways as unless they've lost a  parent they don't truly know what it feels like. That said my other half happily listens whenever I want to talk which is good. I know the people on here truly get it! Take care everyone xxx

Hi there, the analogy is quite accurate. I still can't believe my dad has gone. He went 3 days after diagnosis, I wasn't ready for him to leave. I struggle with it all. No notice that he was going so quickly and the hardest bit, no goodbye! Just simply here one minute and gone the next. How does that happen??? I tell myself it would of been easier on us left behind if it wasn't so sudden. Or if we had longer for the diagnosis to sink in. It's hard to talk to your partners in some ways as unless they've lost a  parent they don't truly know what it feels like. That said my other half happily listens whenever I want to talk which is good. I know the people on here truly get it! Take care everyone xxx