Gone but never forgotten

Offline chloe.2000 over 8 years ago

hello,

My name is chloe and im 15

its been 5 months since my nan was diagnosed with bile duct cancer and it was terminal. this news broke so many hearts. Since finding out this devastating news, she has been undergoing chemo and i can with all my heart say that she was such a strong lady.

Unfortunatley, for the past couple of days/week she has been extremly tired and ill and it breaks my heart to say that she passed away yesterday, at her home with my mum and Grandad. She died peacefully and didnt suffer which is all we could've asked for.

My nan never put herself before anyone she always thoguh of others and did what pleased them. She would give and give and give and would never ask for anything in return.

Even through this on going battle, she never cried or complained. She just got on with it. Infact, when my mum or grandad got upset she would quickly say to them "why you crying for?" :)

she was unbelievably brave and i will never ever forget how brave and strong she was.

I love you lots nanny Annie - i'll do you proud, i promise xxx

I havent quite accepted this lost, and if anyone has any tips on how to accept it or cope with it, then i would appriciate it a lot

thank you xxx

I love you lots nan :love:

Offline davek over 8 years ago

Chloe,
I've been following your Nan's story in the other thread you started and I'm sorry to hear about your loss. She sounds and looks like quite a character.
Everyone deals with grief in different ways. The only advice I can give is not to rush things, take each day as it comes, be there for your Grandad and parents and accept that there is no right or wrong way to deal with the emotions you are experiencing.
There's an article on grieving on Wikipedia which you might find useful, especially as you've mentioned acceptance which is the final stage of grieving and it can take quite a while to achieve. en.wikipedia.org/.../Kübler-Ross_model
Finally, when the time is right, give yourself permission to have fun and to enjoy life - I'm pretty sure that's what your Nan would say to you.
Best wishes
Dave
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Offline chloe.2000 over 8 years ago

to sue,

Thank you so much! X its hard to see things at the moment that just remind you of them and its hard to process it all x I know there's always a light at the end of the tunnel x
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Offline chloe.2000 over 8 years ago in reply to davek

To davek, she really was! She was an inspeational women and will be missed by many! X thank you for your support, i will definitely look at that article, thank you xx
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Offline GrahamM over 8 years ago

Hi Chloe
I'm sorry to hear that you lost your nan, but I am pleased to hear that she had a peaceful ending and didn't have any pain - it would be nice if everybody got a chance to live as long as your nan and got to go out like that and with as much love from those around them.
Sounds as if she was very brave and a great example to you all.
If you're still suffering from her loss you might like to check out Cruse bereavement http://www.cruse.org.uk/ on line they do things like e-mail councilling
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Offline chloe.2000 over 8 years ago in reply to GrahamM

thank you GrahamM
i appriciate it a lot xxx
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Offline Jesxx over 8 years ago

Hi hun so sorry for your loss sending love xx there is a great website where you can talk with other people in same boat it's helping me .. try it out www.bereavementuk.co.uk
And they have a Facebook page a forum and chat room

Please check it out xx
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Offline chloe.2000 over 8 years ago in reply to Jesxx

thank you very much xx
will do
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