I've lost my Mum to cancer.

On January the 14th after a strong battle with stage 4 lung cancer which had spread to the liver and blood, I lost my fantastic, heroic Mum. I'm only 22 and my Mum was only 57. I'm really struggling not having my Mum anymore, it's tearing me apart. I have no Mum figure to speak to as I lost my Mums sister (My auntie a couple of days before my Mum). How do people cope with everything? I hate going on without her she was my best friend and my inspiration. And with it being Mothers Day tomorrow I don't know how to cope. Xx

  • We are so sorry about your loss rachyelizabeth. We are all thinking of you and everyone who has lost their mum recently as Mothers' Day approaches.

    Sadly many of our members are in a similar situation at the moment and they will be along soon I am sure to share their story with you as well as coping tips after losing a parent to cancer.

    Best wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi there, I'm really sorry to see you lost your mum and your auntie in such a short space of time. I lost my dad 24th October 2015, to lung cancer that had spread to his liver and other parts. He was 64 and only a month away from 65. It's so tough losing a parent, it's not what you ever expect to happen. I thought my dad would grow old and I could look after him. I still have my mum here, do you have your dad around or mums partner? As hard as it is, and it is, to go on without them, we have to. We have to live our lives for them and in their memory to keep the memories alive. It will be hard with it being Mother's Day tomorrow but as I told everyone at Christmas, every day is bloody hard, so it was just another hard day. In the four months my dad has been gone, it was his birthday, my mums, then Christmas, then their wedding anniversary, my daughters birthday, Valentine's Day, there is always a day that you miss them and it doesn't stop unfortunately. 22 is very young to loose your mum, there is always somebody better off and somebody worse off than you. Coming on here makes me realise that I'm not alone in my loss. I also try to look at the positives rather than the negatives in what has happened. You can get stuck in a rut when you focus on all the negatives that have happened. I hope tomorrow goes ok for you and you find a way through. If you ever want to chT, I'm around. x

  • I understand what you mean i lost my mum in September & i seem to be getting worse i don't no what or how to be dealing with it at all i wish there was a magic wand to take this pain away 

  • This is exactly how I feel. It's awful. I wish there was something to take all the pain away. Anytime you want a chat feel free to message me