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Lost a very close and dear one - My girlfriends mother.

Rahul
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Hi everyone,

This is Rahul from India. Today I lost a very dear one to breast cancer, my partner's mother. She and I are shattered. She has been crying all day. Trying to console her, but she just won't listen to me. I love her so much, I just want to tell her that everything will be okay. I just cannot see her in this situation.

I an unable to contain this to myself and need support. 

This is so wrong that has happened with her mother. She is just 39. My partner is 22. How shoudl I convince her? I know it will take some time but still , I just want her to be okay as soon as possible and make everything return to normalcy.

 

 

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    I'm really sorry for your loss. She probably doesn't want to hear that everything will be Ok. It's probably not best to rush things either.  She has to grieve in her own way and that takes time. Your girlfriend has lost her mum, for her life will never be normal again! Try and just be there to support her and listen to her. We're not talking days or weeks here, we're talking months if not years to even start getting your head around things. There are no set time limits. Let her cry all day and all week if that's what she needs to do, a cuddle will say so much without words. take care

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    Thanks Michelle for the kind words and advice. Means a lot, Yeah, it's better she takes her time and grieves in her own way as you said. I understand that things will take time but hope she recovers soon.

     

    Thanks again Michelle.

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