Hi wewillbeatcancer,

Sorry about the loss of your mum.

My mum died after 2.5 year with cancer, 4 months ago. The pain does ease as time goes by.

The first month was such a daze, you just feel you've walk out of a car crash and stumbling around. I can't believe it's 4 months more like 4 mins. I feel broken too.

Maybe look for groups and counselling after a while.Many will help you on here too. 

Sameboat

I am so sorry for your loss. It gets easier in the sense of it doesn't keep shocking you everyday. I don't know about you but I kept forgetting my mum had died and then all of a sudden I would remember and it would take my breath away with the shock. That has stopped happening. I also do not cry everyday as a I did for the first few months. It is nearly two years since my mum died of Lung cancer. It will never be acceptable or right that she was taken so early and so suddenly but I have definitely learned to focus on what memories we have of her. We talk about her all the time and when I have news I imagine myself telling her and what she would say back to me. I know she isn't here physically but I believe she will always be with us because she is part of who I am so how could she not be? You will survive this loss and it will get easier to live with.

Just wanted to say on behalf of all the Cancer Chat team that we are sorry to hear you lost your mum only 4 weeks ago. I hope this forum will help you a little by talking to others who have also lost a loved one.

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi there, I'm sorry you've lost your mum. I'm 17 weeks after losing my dad. I still feel very shocked that he's gone so young. Time does makes things a little easier although life will never be the same again. There's a massive void where he once was. Take care you're not alone.