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Mum died end of Sept. I been looking after for a few years. The pain of missing has been very bad.

My question is how do other go on, when for years had someone to talk to anytime of the day. To just a few hours a day, if lucky?

Thanks for your time.

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    Hello sameboat,

    Great username by the way because Cancer Chat is the place to come and talk to others who are on the same boat. I hope some 'shipmates' who are on the same boat as you and have also lost a loved one will be along and share their story with you. Perhaps talking to them on this forum will make you feel a little less alone.

    We have a page on Coping with Grief which I hope will be useful to you. If you feel really down and want to talk to someone, our nurses are always there for you on this free number 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm.

    I will now let others who know exactly how you feel come and say hello and hopefully make you feel a little better.

    Best wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi Lucie,

    Thanks for the time to reply. I have messaged before, and other have replied before which has helped.

    I know others have been lonely and some with no one to talk much. A big part of my life has gone. Since I was caring for mum over 2 years. Still shock in the end. Cancer has had both my parents.

    Been bit low missing mum and dealing with solicitors who don't care if your griefing.

    Sameboat is what we are all in.Yes, there are good shipmates on here. :)

    t

     

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    Hi - I think I am in the same boat as you ... my Mum died a day before Christmas and she was a massive part of my life ..... I found it easier in the beginning as there was Christmas, then the funeral to organise, then taking caring of all her possessions but now that has been done and there's a massive void.  

    All I have to do now is take care of the paperwork and dispose of the ashes .... I've put that off until Easter as I know then that it will be final.  

    I understand totally what you are feeling as often I feel empty - I was working full time and looking after her so there was little time left for boyfriends, weekends away etc.  Now I have the time I'm at a loss as to wahat to do with it all .... I know I have to make an effort and get out and meet people now ... I don't feel like it but I know it has to be done.  People tell me I am brave as I don't cry or show that I'm upset ... if only they knew that inside I am gutted.  

    I hope that I meet someone that I can share my life with .....

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    Hi 73Allingham,

    Thanks for the time to reply. Sorry about your mum.

    Life is empty witthout mum, as she was full life. The pain at very start is very painful. The pain inside does ease after few months.

    I'll get out more in the end. Just having trouble with these solicitors.

    All the best to you.

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