Gosh Amy. You and your sister have had such a lot to cope  with at such a young age. I am so sorry.

I think the moderators here have a link to a really helpful forum for younger members like yourself and I am sure they will put it up for you when they see your message.

Cancer is such an indiscriminate disease and affects so many families.  All we can do is talk together and support each other and know that one day this devastation will stop and a cure will be found.

I hope you have family and friends who are helping you.  This will not stop you missing your lovely Mum I know and grieving is a process we just have to plod through from day to day.  I am in your mum's situation and just want my lovely son and daughter to remember me with a smile and live life to the full.  Your Mum would want that too and is there beside you helping you through.  Cherish your sister and talk to her because she will understand how you are feeling.  Always here for you when you need a chat x

Hi Amy

Welcome to Cancer Chat.

Max56 is right, there is a website called riprap which you can find here.

You can talk to others of a similar age to you who are affected by cancer there.

Please come here as well whenever you feel it is helpful to talk..

There are plenty of kind and helpful people here who will understand how you are feeling.

Best wishes to you and your sister,

Jane

Hi Amy, so sorry for your loss! 14 is too young to lose your Mum, I hope you can find someone to talk to.

Do you have any counseling services at your school?

Hi Amy,

I'm so sorry, there are no words. I lost my mother 6 months ago, I'm 20 years old and I live alone now in our family home whilst I sell the house. It is one thing to lose a parent, but to lose your mum whilst you are still at school is an incredibly difficult thing. My mum was ill for many years, and several times I thought I was about to lose her. I just want you to know that you may not realise it but having your sister with you is an amazing gift. I would have given anything to have a sibling with me during those difficult times (I'm an only child), someone who knows your mum just as well as you do and someone who you know is experiencing the same grief. Your loss will bring you closer I am sure. There isn't a day that passes that I don't miss my mum, and sometimes the house can feel empty too. When that happens, I try and brighten things up. I put on music that I know she loved, I light her favourite candles and I remember all the wonderful times I have had with her. Suddenly, the house doesn't feel so empty. I know this won't work all the time, but I've found doing these small things to remember my mum has helped me with my loss, and I hope that it can do the same for you. 

I know I don't know you personally but I am sending all my love and 'virtual' support to you and your sister. You are braver and stronger than you know to have made it through this.