Lost my dad and not had the reaction and support I expected.

I lost my dad on recently and his funeral was just before Christmas....my dad prepared us well for his passing and his past few months was the best we could have had as a family. We did so many experiances, meals out, family gatherings and it was as positive as we would have made it given the circumstances of his pancreatic cancer.

Loosing him is beyond painful and I am struggling to grieve. This is because there has been a lot of other funerals of late, 6 in total and they were all unexpected deaths and I have supported my friends through them, however the underlying issue that they all have raised is that because we had time to prepare...I have somehow got the better deal...my situation is not anything like theres......and some comments are quiet cutting.

I feel isolated and an unsure where do go from here with these friendships?

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  • I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my Dad a month ago and I miss him so much. His death was unexpected but even if we expected it the pain would still be great, nothing can prepare you for the pain of losing a loved one no matter how long you supposedly were prepared for it. They are our loved ones we never want them to leave them. 

    That is not very nice of your friends losing a parent is hard not matter if you knew for years, months or days. 

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  • I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my Dad a month ago and I miss him so much. His death was unexpected but even if we expected it the pain would still be great, nothing can prepare you for the pain of losing a loved one no matter how long you supposedly were prepared for it. They are our loved ones we never want them to leave them. 

    That is not very nice of your friends losing a parent is hard not matter if you knew for years, months or days. 

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