Hi, evieg, I am so sorry you have lost your dad, such A sad time.  My own father was quite ill when he went into hospital but, before he went, he said to us not to be sad if he didnt come home.  He said he'd had a good life and was perhaps ready to go.  It unsettled me and he did indeed die.  Wwe were greatly comforted by his words but I think we tried to find reasons to grieve properly.  I wonder if you are doing this too, even though your grief is no less than your friends maybe you could be the bigger person and concede that you were indeed fortunate to spend some quality time with your dear dad and perhaps help them through this difficult time.  The loss of a loved one is such a terrible time and we really need to suport each other for as long as it takes.  I hope you find peace. x

Hi, evieg, I am so sorry you have lost your dad, such A sad time.  My own father was quite ill when he went into hospital but, before he went, he said to us not to be sad if he didnt come home.  He said he'd had a good life and was perhaps ready to go.  It unsettled me and he did indeed die.  Wwe were greatly comforted by his words but I think we tried to find reasons to grieve properly.  I wonder if you are doing this too, even though your grief is no less than your friends maybe you could be the bigger person and concede that you were indeed fortunate to spend some quality time with your dear dad and perhaps help them through this difficult time.  The loss of a loved one is such a terrible time and we really need to suport each other for as long as it takes.  I hope you find peace. x

Thank you Pauline4, I know your right and that I am fortunate in how we spent dads last months with him...I suppose I did not expect friends to be quite as forthcoming in pointing this out over and over again x