how do you cope?

my lovely dad passed away 11 days ago on 3rd of December... even though he was diagnosed 2 years ago with prostate cancer which had spread into his bones he had responded well to treatment... in a very short space of six weeks his cancer took his health completely and his life... how do you cope?? im struggling massively.. friends i thought would be there just aren't.. it should bring me and my brothers and sister closer but it hasn't.. the grief is overwhelming.. im struggling to hold it together at work.. dads funeral is this Friday... Christmas is something im selfishly resenting ... everyone so happy when i just want to scream and cry!!!! then i feel bad as dad even at the very end tried to smile.. watching him waste away was awful.. 

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  • I am so sorry for your loss, I want to give you a big hug! I lost my Dad two weeks ago and feel exactly the same way you do! Right now I'm feeling lots of anger at my Dad being taken away too soon and for other people happily going about their day while my life is in pieces, I know that is totally irrational! I feel bad about feeling this way

    I struggle too, some days are better than others, yesterday I didn’t really cry but today felt really tearing! I hate being at work as finding it so hard to care about it and just don’t want to talk to my colleagues, who feel awkward around me sometimes.

    I am sorry that your friend’s haven’t been supportive that is hard as now is when you need them most. I have a friend who lost he father 8 years ago and she has been a great support to me as she understands what I am going through.

    Unfortunately death can cause a lot of discord in the family too, I hope you can resolve those as this is the time when you all need each other

    If you every need to talk, just message me. My thought and prayers are with you

  • Hi joycejoyce

    Sorry for the loss of your dad.

    I am glad to see you have received a warm and supportive welcome here from our lovely members.

    I hope it will help to come and chat when you are feeling low and I hope too that all goes well on Friday.

    Best wishes to you and your family at this difficult time,

    Jane

     

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