Hi Deben, Peach and CG

We are all sadly a part of this forum but not sure how I would have got through it all without its support.  I understand how  you are all feeling and my thoughts are with you all as well as anyone who reads this thread and feels  the pain of grief.  It is such a personal journey but a little easier when shared. Although for me nearly 13 months has passed since I lost my best friend/hubby I still remember the pain of the early days and weeks of grief. Living alone, no one by your side to chat with even though I had supportive friends and of course our children and grandchildren; the times alone were often the hardest to begin with,as suddenly there was a huge hole that nothing could fill. Decisions jointly made are  now mine alone (though in my head I am still seeking his reassurance).

All I can say is adjustments come slowly and cannot be rushed, draw all the strength you can from those close to you, your forum buddies are here to listen and let the good memories carry you through. 

Like you have said the weekends seem longer and I found this strange on a personal note because I was used to spending weeks alone when my man was strong and healthy and worked away from home around the world, sometimes for weeks at a time. I had to dig deep to move forward little by little and my own way of 'coping' was to walk for hours (whatever the weather) especially at weekends.Never really had somewhere in mind but eventually found it calmed me and when I have nothing else arranged I still go walking.

Be kind to yourselves,  Jules x

Hi Deben, Peach and CG

We are all sadly a part of this forum but not sure how I would have got through it all without its support.  I understand how  you are all feeling and my thoughts are with you all as well as anyone who reads this thread and feels  the pain of grief.  It is such a personal journey but a little easier when shared. Although for me nearly 13 months has passed since I lost my best friend/hubby I still remember the pain of the early days and weeks of grief. Living alone, no one by your side to chat with even though I had supportive friends and of course our children and grandchildren; the times alone were often the hardest to begin with,as suddenly there was a huge hole that nothing could fill. Decisions jointly made are  now mine alone (though in my head I am still seeking his reassurance).

All I can say is adjustments come slowly and cannot be rushed, draw all the strength you can from those close to you, your forum buddies are here to listen and let the good memories carry you through. 

Like you have said the weekends seem longer and I found this strange on a personal note because I was used to spending weeks alone when my man was strong and healthy and worked away from home around the world, sometimes for weeks at a time. I had to dig deep to move forward little by little and my own way of 'coping' was to walk for hours (whatever the weather) especially at weekends.Never really had somewhere in mind but eventually found it calmed me and when I have nothing else arranged I still go walking.

Be kind to yourselves,  Jules x