Hi Megan,

My heart goes out to you. I lost my mother a few years ago just after Christmas and Christmas has never been the same since. Then I lost my father a coupe of weeks ago. When we lose a parent, it leaves a big hole in our lives that can never be filled and life will never be the same. Some people think that after a week or so we will be okay but the truth is our loss is only just begining to hit us. It does often get worse before it gets better. In a way I think it doesnt really get better, it's more a case of we learn to adjust to our loss.

I want to say something to you Megan. Allthough your mother is no longer here in a physical sense, there is a part of her that lives on in you for she passed some of her genes on to you, just as my mother did. There are parts of me that are like my mother while other parts are like my father. I do find this comforting as it's almost as if my mother is still here, guiding me through life. It took a few years for me to realize this and I expect the same will happen now I have lost my father.

There is something else that has helped me cope Megan. Whenever I feel low, I trawl back through my happy memories and concentrate on them and this is my way of getting through bad moments.

Take care, sending kind thoughts and best wishes your way, Brian.

Hi Megan,

I just want to say I am sorry for your loss and I hope only the best for you and your family. 

My heart goes out to you I can feel  Your pain from your message. It must be so hard for you and its never easy at Christmas. I think you should try bereavement counselling again and you need to speak to your doctor  as your medication may not be the right one for you. You also need to speak to your dad and tell him how you feel and that you need support now. I lost my dad 9 years ago this Christmas the pain never goes you just learn to think of the good memories.

Is there anyone at Uni you can speak to? They may be able to give you some advice on your studies

 A big big hug from me x