Hi

Everyone reacts differently to bereavement. Perhaps the tablets you have been prescribed for depression caused by your fathers death are preventing you feeling grief for both your father and your mother. Make an appointment to see your GP and discuss this. You may get a referral, there is help available from a variety of professionals. For what its worth I too have little emotion over my mother or fathers death, they led fabulous lives and death ended their dreadful suffering, but I do miss them sorely and they are always in my mind. Kim

I am being reffered to a pshycologist, my meds are not going to be changed at the moment.  Thank you for your reply.  I just needed to put it in writing weather it helps me or not but putting it in words is reinforcing in my mind that it is real.

As kimchosen says, we all react to grief differently - even the same person can react differently at different times.

I was pretty numb after my Mum died of cancer and I had the same reaction when I was diagnosed at Stage 4. I also cried like a baby when my dog died - despite him being 14 which is a good innings for a Labrador.

I guess there's no right or wrong way to deal with grief.

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