Dad passed away today

Hi everyone,

I have this evening had a phone call from my sister in Canada to say Dad passed away this morning. He had a really good day on Sunday but went downhill very rapidly today. I feel in one sense glad he is no longer suffering the pain of the cancer in his bones but also very sad that I never really got to know him as much as I would have liked and that I will never be able to talk tim again. We only met each other for the months holiday when we went to stay with him 23 years ago. I am also very proud to be his son.

My sister sounded very upset and said she will miss him very much. It's hard for me not being there to support my brothers and sisters, Brian.

 

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  • Hi Brian

    Just adding my condolences. You help so many on here I  just hope that everones well wishes are some comfort to you and Mrs B for your recent losses.

  • Hi everyone,

    Thanks Kim, Netty, Sue, Max, Lucie, Jo, and River. You are all so kind, especially as you all have so much going on in your own lives. I have a little story I love to tell which I would love to share with you all

    When dad was driving us through Calgary 23 years ago, Mrs B said "You two, your so alike; you walk the same and even talk the same". A lot of other people has already made similar comments. Anyway, my dad had the car radio on, tuned into a country music station. The very next song was one by the singer/ songwriter, Paul Overstreet and the song was called "Seeing my father in me" and the words included "I walk the way he walks, I even talk the way he talks". It was almost creepy and next day I bought the cassette tape and that song is now one of my favorite songs. I will always remember that day and whenever I hear that song will think of my dad.

    I have regrets that I didnt listen to Mrs B years earlier when she wanted to find dad but at least I got to meet him (and my three sisters and two brothers in Canada) albeit for just a month. I will always remember him as a fun loving person who loved to tease. Thats where I get it from I guess.

    Thanks again ladies. your kind words and thoughts means so much, both to me and Mrs B and will I know help me get through this painful time, Brian.

     

  • Hi Brian

    How lovely that after a chat with your sister in Canada and mentioning that special song, she will try to include it in the service for your Dad. I know that you will all be thinking of each other no matter how many miles there are between you. Sending warm regards and wishing you a peaceful weekend.Jules x

  • Hi Jules,

    Thanks for your lovely reply. Though I only met dad and my brothers and sisters for four weeks, I have lots of wonderful memories which I truley treasure, thanks again, Brian.

  • Hi everyone,

    Just had an e-mail from my sister and she has found that song I spoke about and she is including it in the service on Tuesday. She is also going to read out the e-mail I sent as she says this way I can feel I am part of the service. This is so good of her and I really appreciate it for a part of me want to be there to help support them all. She has also sent me copies of what she has put in the various local papers regarding dads death and a copy of the order of service. Thanks again, everyone, Brian

  • Hi Brian

    I am so pleased for you that the special piece of music is to be included in your Dad's service and though you will be a good few miles away I know you will be with all the family in your thoughts.  Having been sent copies of the 'notices' by your sister you will have felt included by your Canadian family which I hope will bring you some comfort. Thinking of you and Mrs B as always.Jules x

  • Hi Jules,

    Thanks for your kind words. I was really pleased with what my sister is doing as it is making me feel not so isolated. You are so right when you say I will be there with them in thoughts.

    Take care and thanks again, Brian.

  • Thinking of you and your family today Brian. Hugs  Jules x

  • Hi everyone,

    Thanks Tonim and Jules.

    In Calgary they are seven hours behind us so it will be at nine o clock our time this evening when the service starts. My sister has been so good and she has promised to send me photos.

    This thing about us being so similar extended to our handwritting so when we met I jokily told dad it was good getting to know him as I trace all my faults back to him. But I backed it up by saying, I had also inherited his good points and there were lots more of them. 

    Thanks again for your kind words, both of you, Brian.

  • Dear Brian ..... I will be thinking of you and Mrs B this evening as your dear Dad is laid to rest.  Much love to you and all the family x

  • Hi Brian

    All of us at Cancer Chat are thinking of you today.

    Best wishes to you and Mrs B.

    Jane

     

  • Hi Brian

    With you in spirit as will be your wonderful family. All the best. Kim

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