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My dad has been fit and healthy, until the last 3 weeks. He was admitted to hospital with a blood infection. They sent him for a body scan and dad was diagnosed with primary lung cancer, secondary in the liver and bone marrow. Dad didn't even get a biopsy as we lost him 6 days after the scan. We were with dad untill the end but im struggling with how quickly this has all happened and worry we didn't do enough or was he always going to go this quickly? 

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    Hi Viaven

    Welcome to the forum though so sorry to read the reason for your being here.  Condolences for your loss and just now it  will, I know, be so hard to grasp all that has happened to your Dad in such a short space of time. Sadly when our loved ones are taken from us so quickly we have to deal with the shock and grief  all rolled into one. I am pretty certain you and the family will have done everything possible to do enough for your Dad and it is heartbreaking that you did not have more time together.Few words can say how emotional these events in our lives affect us but in time I hope the wonderful memories you have stored in your heart will help you move forward. Sending a virtual hug.Jules54

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    My deepest sympathy on the loss of your dad. I lost my dad to cancer in 2006 it was one of the hardest days of my life. My dad was diagnosed with cancer of the oesophagus. It hits everyone hard you will go through a range of emotions from sadness, bewilderment then to anger. You will never get over the loss of your dad but try to keep the precious memories in your head/heart not the ones you will have from hospital. Remember he will always be in your heart. Cancer seens to hit every family now, hopefully with more research this may one day be a thing if the past.   I myself have suffered from cancer luckily they removed all the tumours and I'm now in remission.

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    Hi,

    Thanks for your reply. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad and your own personal situation. I still can't believe what has happened and how quickly dad was taken. Dad didn't even have time for the news to sink in but I think he knew it was serious. He waited for us to go see him in hosp during visiting time so that we were all there when he passed. He looked so scared when he was going but I take comfort from holding his hand. 

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