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I have just returned from the remembrance service of a friend. My late husband was his best man~(his wife our bridesmaid) and I paid my respects for us both.  Emotions are understandably running high but this poem was read out and I felt the need to place it here.

You can shed tears that he is gone, or you can smile because he  has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray he will come back, or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.

Your heart can be empty because you can't see him. or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can turn  your back on tomorrow and live for yesterday, or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember him and only that he is gone, or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back, or  you can do what he would want: Smile,open your eyes, love and go on.

Rest peacefully Dave, you will be missed.

(lost to cancer 2.9.15)

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    Thank you Jules what a wonderful post. Kim

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    Just beautiful...

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    Brian, Kim, Deano and Sue,

    Thank you all for your responses and for being in my 'virtual world'.  Forum friendship is something very special. Wishing everyone a peaceful festive season.  Hugs  Jules x

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    3.1.16

    A year has passed since you were sadly taken  and the loss I feel is shared by many. Words are rarely enough to put across how love and loss affects us all.

    The tears are shed, the memories held dear,

    Every day I hold you near.

    A special place within my heart is where you rest whilst we are apart.

     Some of my forum buddies will be aware that the butterfly was chosen as a symbol for my hubby (three days before he passed a small tortoiseshell butterly was flying around him and he seemed  calmed by its presence - stange for mid winter too) so the quote below is repeated.

    "Perhaps the Butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of darkness, yet become something beautiful".

    Loved, missed but living with good memories of happier times.  Jules xx

  • Offline in reply to jules54

    Thinking of you today Jules and sending you and your family all my love x

  • Offline in reply to jules54

    Will also be thinking of you on this day. Wishing you and yours strength, peace and love. Kim

  • Offline in reply to max56

    Dear Max and Kim

    You kind thoughts and words are much appreciated. Jules x

  • Offline in reply to jules54

    Just read this and thought of you...  x

    "Sometimes we all need an angel to hold our hand"

     

     

     

  • Offline in reply to susu

    Thank you Sue and I think he is doing his best!

    Having said that I could do with one who does housework though I suppose it's keeping me occupied between tv programmes!Jules x

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