dear meerkat@ 65  i was fasninated to read your cancer journey, cause i lost my mum to ovarian cancer last december, she only lasted three weeks did not know she had till it was too late, mum had been in remission from early breast cancer since 2011, i not a expert in the reading of cancer, but i made the mistake of thinking mum would be alright after her breast cancer because they got it early and  was taking these tablets everyday, after mums passing i read about cancer recurrance, and now i feel a fool not knowing it can come back if not in the same place, but to another place, which it came back in her ovaries, i read they call it a silent diease, because you do not get any symptoms untill late stages and they have not found any early detection screening for it yet, eight months on it still feels raw losing mum just three weks while she was in hosiptal, i am also impressed the way you are coping and dealing with your situation,i think i got to learn to get on with life, and i know mum would want me too, but it hurts at the moment and i hope in time i can cope with it. cheers oggi

Hi Oggi,

Thank you for your kind words about the way you feel I am coping and dealing with my situation. 

I am so sorry to read about your mum; I understand that ovarian cancer is the silent disease for the reasons you've given. Don't feel foolish for not knowing that Cancer can recur - it's a difficult illness to get to grips with! 

You say that your mum would want you to get on with life, but please give yourself the time you need to grieve for your mum. It's still very early days yet.

I think all those who have lost someone will agree that the length of the grieving process varies immensly from person to person. Have you considered bereavement counselling? With time, you will gradually cope with the loss of your mum, but take little steps as you adjust to your 'new normal.' 

I often see your name appearing on the forum, offering support to others. I hope the forum brings you the same comfort that it's brought me since I joined over two years ago. 

Take care of yourself, Jo x