Hi Ange

I know what you mean about the weekends. I lost my husband(best and only friend) June 4th. I find the weekends the emptiest . This monday has been pretty bad to. I get so tired of these feelings....I have my daughter  and son but I am a bit of an introvert. Since I always had my husband I never needed  to look for friendships. Now I find myself  looking to connect with some one.

Angela

Hello Angela,

Sorry about your loss. I actually had a better weekend just gone - my youngest sister-in-law came down to stay for a couple of days &. Although I'm not particularly religious, I have started going to my local village church - we didn't really know many people in the village & I figured it would be a good way to meet local people. I have been introduced to a lady in the village who lost her husband last year & it's nice to talk to someone who has been through the same situation.  Neighbours have also been very supportive. Do you have a job? I retired several years ago & have now joined the U3A, which is, essentially a social/hobbies club for retired/semi-retired people. I have not been to any meetings yet, but will do at some stage.

Best wishes

Ange 

Hi  Ange

I am glad you had a better weekend. I don't have a job. Haven't worked outside the home for quite awhile. I am curently looking for one. I am also trying to sell my home since I need to down size. When I am not anxious I feel empty and sad. I think the anxiety is the worse and I don't suppose it will go away until all these things I have to do are completed. This makes me even more anxious. My family says one day at a time, thats easy to say when every moment of each day is not full of pain.

Last night I got the idea to adopt a pet. I had to give up Monty (my chihuahua) because I couldnt care for my husband and him. Monty seem to reflect the pain and sadness the house was going through at the time. So know adopting is feeling like another dilema, since I don't want to transfer my pain into another living thing. sorry for this long post

Best wishes

Angela

When my dad died, my mum joined tthe local church's womens group and it really helped her.  She made some lovely friends and had a good time at their meetings and days out. You sound like you are doing all you can to help yourself and, given time, I think you will realise that you are stronger than you imagine,.  Take care, Ange. x

Angela,

Is it really imperative that you sell your house at the moment? I think you're feeling enough stress at the moment & it's a well-known fact that bereavement & moving house are two of the most stressful things you can go through.

Take care.

Ange

Thanks Pauline,

I'm going with a neighbour to visit a National Trust property tomorrow, have some old friends coming down on Friday & my sister will be staying for a night at the weekend. I DO believe keeping busy is the key.

Ange

Thanks Pauline,

I'm going with a neighbour to visit a National Trust property tomorrow, have some old friends coming down on Friday & my sister will be staying for a night at the weekend. I DO believe keeping busy is the key.

Ange