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I lost my beautiful dad nicknamed patchie March 2014.. the worst day of my life... he was my total hero. I struggle so much to move on but i have a lovely husband and 3 beautiful daughters and a wonderful grandson... i feel very lonely without him. I miss his smile humour and kindness.   Life will get better but its very hard.  I have a wonderful sister who hurts the same as me.  We are trying and wont give up.  My family means the world to me.  So please anyone out ther keep looking at photos dont stop talking.... cry and laugh whenever you want its ok ...

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    Hi mypatchie

    I'm sure your experiences will resonate with others here who have lost a loved one and are living with the same heartache.

    Thank you for posting and welcome to Cancer Chat.

    Best wishes to you and your family,

    Jane

     

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    Hi Mypatchie,

    Welcome and thanks for writing this for you are so right. I know some people who have lost a loved one dont like talking about it even to close family. I know it is probably because they find it painful but I feel it's almost as if they are trying to forget the person they lost and the good times they had and put them to the back of their mind. To me, this wouldnt work. I lost my mother over nine years ago and I still miss her in so many ways. But I have never stopped talking about her And I often look at the photos I have which help remind me of the laughs we used to have.

    You are right it does get easier in time for we learn to adjust to a way of life that will never be quite the same again. But even now, there are some things like seeing he favorite flower or hearing a song she loved that act as a trigger and get me quite emotional.

    Wishing you and your sister all the best, Brian.

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    hi mypatchie , i know how you feel, i lost my dad at fourty seven due to a unexpected heart attack when i was nineteen , last december i lost my mum at seventy four years old due to ovarian cancer did not know she had it untill itn was too late, she was already in remission from early stage breast cancer since 2011,but these days cancer still comes back after time and i think thats what happened with mum, whats worse i read ovarian cancer is callled a silent killer because you do not get any symptoms untill the cancer has advanced, mum was diagnosed late stage 4, she only lasted three weeks in hospital and could not have treatment because the cancer had already spread and  was also horrified to find out they is still no any early detection screening for ovarian cancer yet, their excuse is that they say early symptoms are vague and hard to detect, so what the hell are you supposed to do, i feel angry and upset, i now am parentless and feel i lost both parents in a cruel way, they say life must go on, but its going to be hard, hope you can pull through your loss, take care oggi

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