hi sorry to hear about your dad, i lost my mum out of the blue on dec 27th last year , she only lasted three weeks in hospital, it turned out she had ovarian cancer which we did not know about till it was too late, she was already in remission from breast cancer since 2011, cancer is horrible , it seems to come back no matter what treatment you have, life is not fair sometimes. nearly eight months on it still feel raw as hell , i miss going out with her, but at the same time i most be greatful to have had mum four seventy four years, life must go on i suppose but i keep telling told the first year is always hard then it will get  easier after that, mmum sufferd like hell she could not eat she was sick everyday they could not stop it , and she could not move of the bed it was driving her  mad as well as the pain, but she does not to suffer anymore now and i am glad she is finally laid to rest , hope you can pull through take care oggi

Hi ... Yes Cancer is *** And it's Sneaky and seems to take so many lives. Your Poor Mum - she thought she was in remission. In some ways at least you all didn't have to watch your Mum suffer for any longer - that's the thing I keep telling myself about my Dad - although any time watching any of our loved ones suffer is a moment too long. Sounds very similar to how my Dad was - the sickness and constant pain and never being able to get comfy (and not able to get out of bed). It's supposed to  easier after the 1st year - once you get past all the anniversaries. I guess like to say we just have to carry on. My Dad was 75 but wasn't ready to go so I find it difficult when people say - he lived a good life ? He may have done but it was still unfairly cut short - as Was your mums. I wish you well .. Good luck xx

I am sorry for your loss, I lost my Dad on 1st July 2015. Dad was diagnosed with Cancer of the spine on 11th June 2015. People keep saying we were lucky it was so quick. I would have given anything to have more time with Dad. I have a strong family and we were with my Dad until the day he died. I too can't get the images out of my head, my strong dad just wethered away in front of our eyes and we could do nothing to help him. My dad funeral is on Tuesday and I've had to return to work last week. My work have been really good, just take your time! I found myself walking out the office several time for a cry. Your work will support you. It's hard for me at the moment to think of the good times, as I was very close to my dad and just want him back. I can't image a world without him. I keep thinking a day at time and if I need to cry, I cry! The pain will never stop we will learn to live with it. Everything we do will make our dads proud! X

dear c ryder  sorry about your dad i lost my dad at 47 years old way back in 1990 due to a heart attack, last december i lost my mum to ovarian cancer after been in remission from breast cancer since 2011, and they got that in a early stage with surgery and radiotherophy but these days it seems to make no differance because it always seems to come back no matter what stage or treatment you get, we did not know mum had this ovarian cancer untill it was too late, she was diagnosed late stage four where it had already spread and could not offer any treament and with only being in hospital for three weeks she passed away, i know why they call it the silent killer now as you do not seem to get any symptoms untill late stages and still they have not found any early detection screening for it yet which is worrying, as it is i am now parentless people tell me i am lucky to have had mum for seventy fours years, and  it will get easier after the first year tkae care oggi

Thanks for your reply and sorry for your loses..it's been very difficult as for two weeks we took dad to A &E and they did scans and blood test, as my dad was a smoker I asked each time is there any cancer... They kept saying blood tests and scan were clear. Then it hit and within two weeks Dad was gone. Just can't get my head round it all, nor can the rest of the family. It's Dad funernal tomorrow and its taken longer from Dad passing to his funeral then it did from diagnoses to Dad going. I am such a Daddy's girl and miss him so much! Keep thinking I am seeing dad everywhere but I am so stupid because why would he be hiding from me. Cancer is a ***********. I scared my children will not remember my dad, my twins are 10 and my boy is 5. Xxxxx