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Found my dad dead this morning

Claire4
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My dad was recently diagnosed wih advanced cancer and each day has been getting worse they called today to say to come in quickly as the end is near ( he is in hospital) I rushed in to see him and found him dead in his room. I knew it wouldn't be long and im happy he isn't in pain anymore but all I cam see is him lying there dead, it physically hurts and im desperate to remember him as my Dad again. Is this normal? Will it go away? He is such a wonderful dad and I love him so much 

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    Hi Clair,

    So sorry to read about your dad. Sending my condolances to you, Brian

     

     

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    Hello Claire ..... what a painful day this must have been for you and I am so very sorry to hear of your Dad's passing.  It is going to take time to digest what has happened and of course how you are feeling is normal. Take it a day at a time, dont expect too much of yourself and allow yourself to grieve in whatever way feels right for you. x

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    Hi Claire,

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your dad. When my dad passed away in intensive care it hit me very hard what you are going through is normal hun seeing him is part of the shock and trauma you are going through.

    You will get through this and be able to remember your dad as he was, it will take time.

    My condolences to you and your family.

    Take it day by day and be kind to yourself.

    Thinking of you 

    Rose x

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    Hi Claire

    A sad time for you and the family and everything will feel very raw and painful just now. Yes, I would say this iis perfectly normal in the time following the death of a loved one.  There is no time limit on grief and everyone faces it in different ways but in time, day by day, week by week, the wonderful memories of your Dad that you hold in your heart will help you through. I recognise the comment that you are happy he is free of pain as felt this way when my Dad and also my husband passed away.

    Take time for yourself, allow your emotions their release and and draw strength and support from those around you. the forum is here if you need to talk.  Sending a virtual hug. Jules54

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    Thankyou for the replies and kind words, I hope you are right it feels never ending right now

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    Hi Claire

    Condolences from all of us at Cancer Chat.

    If you would like to speak to someone about your dad and how you are feeling, do call our nurses on: 0808 800 4040. They answer calls from Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.

    Please keep in touch at this sad time and let us know how you are getting on,

    Best wishes

    Jane

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    Hi, Clair! i am so sorry!!! you must be strong! sending my condolances, Clara

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