Hi Asho,

I am so sorry to read your story. Ther is no time limit for grief and often it can have a delayed affect on us. When someone we love dearly passes away, for a time it seams like a nightmare type dream and it doesnt really hit us. We are kept busy with all the things we have to do it just doesnt sink in. In your case it is made worse by the fact you were quite young at the time and at a time of life when you really needed your mother.

I am a lot older at 71 but when I lost my mother over nine years ago, I found it it leaves a big hole in our lives and life will never be the same again. However, we do learn to adjust to a new way of life but it does take time and varies from person to person. You will have ups and down for when you hear a song or see something your mother liked it will hit hard as I know all to well.

Just remember that though your mother may no longer be with you, a part of her lives on inside of you for she has helped shape the person you have become both by the genes she has passed on to you and also by the advice and guidance she gave you. I find I have traits that my mother had and I find this comforting as I hope you will.

Take care, best wishes, Brian.

Hey Brian,

Thank You for your reply - apologies for responding late on. It means a lot. I feel a lot more positive than I did a couple of weeks ago, finishing my first year of University put a downer on me due to not being able to celebrate with my Mum. Now I am doing as you stated and learning to adjust and continue on with my life at University and from day to day. 

Sorry to hear about the passing of your Mother too, at any age it will always be a difficult and significant loss. I hope things are going well for you. 

Once again thank you so much for your kind reply, it's definitely made me feel a lot better understanding another person's perspective on a similiar situation. 

Take care yourself and all the best for your future, Ashleigh.