hi Angela 

i lost my partner 7th of april and its see very had to cope as every one say keeping busy helps. i have the same feelings of guilt and loss and feels like my heart has been ripped out its going to take some time befor the pain get easyer .spending time with family and friend helps.I still cry every day and still cant beleave she has gone. im really sorry for your loss theres always some one on here to talk to . trev 

Hi to you all, I feel for all of you.

I lost my Mum last Wednesday and I am strugglng to accept it. My Dad is broken. Him and Mum were also inseperable. He has lost his soul mate. I am consumed with grief but also consumed with worry for my Dad. Will he ever feel 'normal' again ? I know its such early days but I can't stand the thought of him living the rest of his life in misery. I am praying that further along in this nightmare of a journey he will be able to smile again.

It is helpful to know other people's experiences and how they are coping. Kathy, so glad you are now in a better place. I wish that for my Dad too. Jo x 

Hi ,Angela , I lost my husband 26th April after 30 years married , after a short illness.  I was totally numb the first few weeks and didn't feel anything . This has worn off now , I quite liked the numbness it was like a protection. I find even simple things a huge challenge still , it took me two months to fill a simple form in. I have realised now it is going to be a long road to feeling better , and am taking baby steps eg put air in my tyres for the first time ever and felt really proud I had managed that (challenge of the day) . I find weekends more difficult as I can see friends during the week but they have their partners home at weekends, so then I realise how lonely this new life is . Like jules54 I have stopped expecting too much of myself .

Hi ,Angela , I lost my husband 26th April after 30 years married , after a short illness.  I was totally numb the first few weeks and didn't feel anything . This has worn off now , I quite liked the numbness it was like a protection. I find even simple things a huge challenge still , it took me two months to fill a simple form in. I have realised now it is going to be a long road to feeling better , and am taking baby steps eg put air in my tyres for the first time ever and felt really proud I had managed that (challenge of the day) . I find weekends more difficult as I can see friends during the week but they have their partners home at weekends, so then I realise how lonely this new life is . Like jules54 I have stopped expecting too much of myself .