Tessa,

Your friends are right, it is still early days and the pain doesn't go away so easily, especially when you've been part of each others' lives for so long. Sixty is far too young for anyone to be taken away.

You're not alone, but I'm sure it often feels that way. It would be even sadder if his passing didn't leave such a void in someone's heart.

Best wishes
Dave
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Hi Tessa, welcome to the forum, but sorry for the reason you are here.I can "hear" the pain in your post. How sad it is when one half of a couple leaves too soon because of a terrible illness. I know that your two daughters are close to you and bring you much comfort, but it isn't the same for sure. I know there really isn't anything one can say to ease your pain and although time does heal, you will always feel that loss and emptyness in your life. There are others on here who have lost their husband/partner and I'm sure someone will be along soon to respond to your post. Someone who is in the same situation as you, can understand how you feel. People on here are very caring and supportive and it does help to share your feelings and pain with others in the same situation.

Come back on here and let us know how you are doing and keep checking for responses from others who know what its'like to be where you are with your loss.

Sending you hugs.

Lorraine    

Hi Tessa

I can't really offer anything other than sympathy and empathy.  I suppose that all you can do is try to be grateful for what you have ie your daughters, but it's hard to be grateful when you feel like everything has been ripped away from you.  My loss is very new, so I hope that things do improve.  I think you also have to allow yourself to be happy, without guilt.  You're still young, and I hope you find happiness again x

Hi Tessa

I wish I had the right words to express my sadness that you are another facing the futurte without your husband.  I am only a couple of years older than you and my hubby died just four months ago.  We had been together 42 years, 37 married, two children and two grandchildren and he had a three year journey with incurable Mesothelioma.  The grieving process takes as long as it takes I guess. The kids and I give each other mutual support and I was lucky enough to find this forum during his illness. It has wonderful 'readers' who do understand and offer their support and virtual friendship. Somehow its easy talking to those you are not emotionally linked to. Please do come and chat when you feel like it.Jules54

my dear mum lost my step dad to brain Tumar 13 yrs ago she felt the small dings like him not der to help with unloading shopping to making him a cuppa my mum even doe she had myself n granddaughter was lost with out him but she did get better from her loss it takes time and is different for every one u will get through this my darling he is with u every day in spirit ️now I am goin through the pain of loosing my mum to cancer within the nxt 3 months the fought of it it unbearable and feel my heart has been ripped out sending luv x

Hi jules . Thank you , I'm so sorry that you too are facing the future without your husband , And for taking the time to reply to me whilst dealing with your own loss . I know that with time things will get better , but just be very different, we seem to be very similar I too have a supportive family with a granddaughter who fills our lives with laughter and love .  Im so pleased I came across this site ,so many thoughtful kind people just giving support to each other. I will come back and visit it often , I feel sad but grateful that there are people on here that understand , thank you once again , your kind words of support mean so much . X take care tessa55

hi tessa

i lost my partner to ovarian cancer nearly six weeks a go she was only 59 and like you i miss her so much i feel like my heart has been ripped out i still struggle to look at photos and thinking  about her get me so upset the tears just keep flowing i cant yet get used to the empty house .

Family and grandkids keep me going at the moment i feel so lost and lonely like you i have a big void to fill i now its early days but i still cant emagine life without her .

My partner put up a good fight for five years it still didernt make it any easyer when she passed away i hop it helps to now your not alone . 

take care trev. x