Lost my Grandad Sunday.

Hi I've joined the site in the hope of some support. My Grandad finally passed away Sunday night. He was diganosed with lung cancer before Christmas. Seeing him get worse and worse, hearing his lungs fill up with fluid, seeing him waste away, getting so confused and looking so scared has left me heart broken. The though of never seeing him again leaves me a sobbing mess. Seeing my Gran and my Mum so upset makes me feel so useless. I am keeping myself busy in the day but at night I am alone and thats when it is worse for me. 

  • poor you = it is terrible to lose anyone and I am truly sorry to read your post. At least he is at peace and no longer suffering and that maybe a consolation. 

    Here virtual hug xx

  • Hi Wishgirl,

    Losing someone close is incredibly painful. I know how you feel for I have lost several close family members including my mother and grandmother to breast cancer. I found one of the worst things was seeing them suffering and slowly slipping away and not being able to do anything to help. I felt so helpless.

    You sound a very caring person for you seem more concerned for your gran and mother than you do for yourself. I hope all three of you are able to talk openly and honestly about your emotions for close family support helps so much and not many families are able to expose how their feeling to one another.

    I often say, we never really get over losing someone we love, but in time we learn to live with our loss. Sending hearfelt condolances, Brian.