Good & bad days

Hello everyone, 

It's been three months since we lost our nan to cancer. I've returned to work, I'vs joined a running club at work and felt like I was having more better days than bad days. But I haven't had a good weekend as I've had an argument with my partners brother & was poorly over the weekend. 

I am feeling low and down today, but took a days holiday to do things for me. Hoping that the argument will soon blow over & it won't play on my mind as I find I focus and overthink things more. 

Back to work tomorrow & running to train for the race for life later this year. If anyone reading this has any suggestions to get a smile on those bad days I would love to hear. Thank you, Nav x

  • Oh dear = you were doing so well Navitha - and then a problem with you partners brother and feeling a bit ill.

    Never mind about him = its you in the dumps. Well, my secret way to make me laugh again is to listen to all the birds who are busy at this time and are really chatty!! They always chear me up!!

    I had a similar problem at work = I wasn't sure if a lady was talking to me or not = so I decided not to talk to her and see what happens then. Just as I thought = she wasn't talking to me!! So, I thought "well - she probably wants to feel better as well" - so I went out of my way to share lunch and  make her laugh. She's okay now!! (what it was about - I didn't ask = but I am not perfect - far from it!!)

    We all feel low sometimes - well thats okay = the birds just twitter away - they don't care. Its more tricky with the guy as there are other people involved = but it will all blow over in the end! Compassion would say we are all more similar that we think and disagreements are okay and do happen.

    A Jammy Dodger to you both for living in this imperfect world! Especially as you are still thinking about your Nan and he should have known you were a bit raw as its only recently.

    xx

    (I run every day now = but my wife won't let me try a charity run. shucks!!

  • Hi Nav

    Nearly three months since I lost someone too and I am not surprised that when you feel ill yourself and then have an argument it feels so bad.  I have found I am a bit more edgy than I used to be and what seem little things to others can make me much more emotional.  I think this is a natural part of the grieving process.  I too am back at work (though on a day off today) and it helps when you are busy.  Well done for taking up running and good luck with the race for life (my daughter and 6yr old grandson  have entered the Watford race for life).  Try and remember that the loss of your nan makes you feel a little more vulnerable at times and give yourself some tlc. Sending virtual hug. Jules54

  • Hello Brighteyes and Jules54,

    Thank you for your replies. I have gone back to work today and feel alot better for it today, and I think you are right brighteyes, never mind to the fall out with my partners brother. I have also come home today to see my mum and I'm getting cuddles from my favourite girl, our labrador flash. She's alwasys so happy and I find this does help me when I am feeling low.

    I've been very sensitive and I do find things play on my mind alot more. I do sometimes wish there was a button to switch how I was feeling so that I could feel "back to normal". Thank you for your kind word Jules54, it is making me realise that I am vulnerable and shouldn't take things so lightly.

    And brighteyes, thank you for your message about the birds and their chirping. And the jammy dodger part, it has made me chuckle. Here's to a better week and hope you both have a lovely Easter break, xx

  • Hi again Nav

    Glad you feeling better and great to have Mum and your pet giving you helpful hugs/support.  Thank you for your Easter wishes which are returned.(I am going on a short break to Dorset with my daughter, son in law and the grandchildren on Easter Monday so have a little something to look forward to.  Take care of  yourself.Jules

  • Yes - you enjoy the break as well. Half the trouble for me is the clocks going forwards - always makes me grumpy!!

    Extra Jammy Dodgers as you feel a bit brighter :D

    Have a lovely break

    XXX

  • Hi Jules,

    That sounds lovely, hope you have lovely weather over the weekend in Dorset too. Thank you for your message and well wishes, the week is getting better as it's going on :).

    Nav x

  • It does! I'm sure the clocks going forward have taken me a few days to get used to and yes...has made me grumpy too.

    Thank you, just got some Easter eggs for a Easter egg hunt on sunday. Might have to tuck into one a little earlier. Enjoy your break and speak soon xx