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Sadly my Dear wife Jaki has recently passed away with Ovarian Cancer. Jaki went in to hospital for an operation which had been diagnosed as a Diverticulitus, the operation was however aborted as the Surgeon discovered his diagnosis was mistaken and instead there was apparent a Cancer. If Jaki had been correctly diagnosed then her chances of surviving would have been far greater, this sadly is my nagging, nagging, forever worry. 

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    Hello Brian100,

    We are so sorry to hear that your wife Jaki recently passed away and that she was misdiagnosed, It must have been such a shock to you and it is normal that you can't stop thinking about what would have happened had she been diagnosed earlier. However, you have done everything you could for Jaki despite the unfortunate circumstances of a misdiagnosis so try not to think too much about those 'what ifs' though it must be very difficult not to.

    I just welcomed someone to the forum who also recently lost the love of her life and perhaps you two could talk to each other? You can read Rita's story here and share yours with her too if you want.

    I will now let our other members come and say hello!

    Best wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    GMorning Brian100

    I am so sorry to hear you are not at peace = I can certainly understand why. "Why oh why" = its all perfectly normal to feel like this a nd its part of the berievement process. We keep saying "if only we had done this or that" over my mums recent parting. The problem is that diagnosis is never 100% = we don't yet have the technology for that. 

    I wish I new the answers in your questioning.. I wish you a welcome here and offer the chance for you to chat about it all. All the best to you Brian100 = I admire your strength

    Steven

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    Hi Brian,

    Sorry not to have responded earlier but didnt get on site much yesterday.

    As my name is Brian too I wanted to respond to you, especially after reading your post. I can understand how you be feeling just having lost your wife and then having to deal with the fact she was mis-diagnosed. At least the surgeon was honest enough to admit his mistake and not try and hide it. I hope you have support around you for grieving is a very eomtional thing.

    I am sure that you will have many happy memories of your life together and these will help I feel sure. After losing my mother, when I felt really sad, I used the happy memories I have to remind me of the good times we shared and this helped me cope. Take care and anytime you feel alone, feel free to come on here as often as you need for there are many wonderful people on here who will lend a listeng ear and will help and support as best as we can. Sending best wishes and kind thoughts your way, Brian

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