Hi Rob and welcome to the forum.  I am so glad to see that your health is good after your operation but so sad that you feel you didnt get the support you both needed regarding the repercussions of your surgery. Cancer is a very hard journey and needless to say seems to rob us all of something whilst we are on it - whether its our own feeling of safety, our looks, our relationship, or in your case your plans for the  future. So many strides have been made regarding the physical treatments of the disease over the past few years and many people now survive thank goodness - but somewhere along the line, the emotional support is still generally not there.  I was discussing this with my oncologist only last week.

It may help you to call the nurses here on the forum (its free) - they are very supportive and have an abundance of information which could guide you in the right direction.  Meanwhile, keep talking to each other about those tough times and enjoying the life you now have as a family. Good things do happen and you never know what little miracle may be around the corner. Always here when needed and will keep every thing crossed for you all that your dreams come true x