Hi Michelle1975

I can understand how you feel. My husband died 8 weeks ago. It’s so hard to believe he’s not here anymore and never will be. Rationally of course I know he’s gone but I’m beset with what if and could I have type thoughts. I’ve read this is normal but that gut wrenching feeling where you just want to cry and shout out is awful.

You are managing a bit at a time. You’re getting your lad to school and picking him up again. You can see how your child who’s still at home is helping as much as they can. So in some ways you’re really doing ok!

I’m doing quite a lot of things but sometimes i feel panicky and almost physically sick. My grown up daughter and her boyfriend live quite close by. It’s wonderful that they want to spend time with me but I’m trying not to depend on them. I expect like me you’re feeling so sad that all the things you thought you had time to share and do with your husband has been snatched away from you. I struggle with all sorts of things that trigger grief attacks. Seeing someone on TV visiting somewhere we went together, hearing people talk about future plans knowing it’s incredibly difficult for me to think of what the future will be like is soul destroying.

However, I have friends who lost their other half years ago and they have got on with life in time,  having holidays, getting involved in all sorts of new activities. I take heart from them hoping that I’ll be able to do the same. I’m sure this will happen for me and you too but we’ll all get on at our own pace and we will have extremely low times on the way. Thinking of you xx

Hi Michelle1975

I can understand how you feel. My husband died 8 weeks ago. It’s so hard to believe he’s not here anymore and never will be. Rationally of course I know he’s gone but I’m beset with what if and could I have type thoughts. I’ve read this is normal but that gut wrenching feeling where you just want to cry and shout out is awful.

You are managing a bit at a time. You’re getting your lad to school and picking him up again. You can see how your child who’s still at home is helping as much as they can. So in some ways you’re really doing ok!

I’m doing quite a lot of things but sometimes i feel panicky and almost physically sick. My grown up daughter and her boyfriend live quite close by. It’s wonderful that they want to spend time with me but I’m trying not to depend on them. I expect like me you’re feeling so sad that all the things you thought you had time to share and do with your husband has been snatched away from you. I struggle with all sorts of things that trigger grief attacks. Seeing someone on TV visiting somewhere we went together, hearing people talk about future plans knowing it’s incredibly difficult for me to think of what the future will be like is soul destroying.

However, I have friends who lost their other half years ago and they have got on with life in time,  having holidays, getting involved in all sorts of new activities. I take heart from them hoping that I’ll be able to do the same. I’m sure this will happen for me and you too but we’ll all get on at our own pace and we will have extremely low times on the way. Thinking of you xx