How can I keep going on

Hi I'm new to the site, my hubby passed in 2017 cancer it started with a mouth ulcer he had treatment over 5 years was then told no more trials it was end of live I went to our surgery they have posters all over the walls about where you could find it not one poster about mouth ulcers 3 weeks we went every week to the doctor who then sent a slow letter by the time he got an appointment it had started eating his face away

He had Jack Russell's they all passed from cancer within 2 years of him passing.

My son has hereditary hemochromatosis, is was found on holiday by German doctor  they did tests and gave him the results told him to go to his doctor to get the treatment he had the treatment over 5 years now they tell him its end of live there are no more trials. He lives in Spain I live in East Yorkshire UK

His son my grandson has been told that he also has hereditary hemochromatosisis he lives in Cambridge. The hospital in Cambridge are looking after him. He now as a baby son how long before he is told the same

In Hull where I am my other grandsons took the information to there doctors who just dismissed their concerns and binned 8 pages of information given from the Spanish hospital 

Dont know how much longer I can cope, I watch my grandsons knowing that they could be next. I know that if found in the early stages there lives can be extended. 

Sorry for the long post but its eating me away some doctors not listening. Then coming to the funeral and telling me they were sorry that they had not acted sooner.

  • Hello Rosa101 and a very warm welcome to our friendly community, 

    I am so sorry for your loss and it's so sad what happened to him and how it all started from a mouth ulcer. How moving too that the Jack Russells passed from cancer within 2 years. It's terrible too that your son has hereditary hemochromatosis and that he has been told that there is nothing they can do and how unfortunate that his son inherited the condition too. It's good though that he is being monitored in Cambridge and I hope that the baby boy won't have this condition. 

    It's such a shame that those doctors didn't take your grandson's concerns seriously and binned 8 pages of information given from the Spanish hospital. I think it's completely understandable given what happened to your husband that you don't want to see this repeated and it is important to act sooner rather than later. It might be worth in that case for your other grandsons to get in touch with another doctor and for them to seek a second opinion explaining what happened in the family and that they really want to be taken seriously.   

    You've been through so much recently and it's hard to know sometimes how to keep going after the loss of a loved one. Our information on coping with grief highlights the range of feelings you might go through and how important it is that you reach out for support even by just talking to your GP if you are finding things overwhelming. 

    We're all here for you anytime you need to talk and I will now let other members of our community come and say hello and share their experience with you. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator