Hi Kelly and a warm welcome to our friendly community, 

Poor you - thank you for coming here and sharing your story. You are not ranting at all, you have been through so much recently and I wanted you to know we are here for you and that you won't be alone on our forum as others on here have sadly also lost a loved one to cancer. I am so sorry to hear your adopted mam passed away at the end of the year and I wanted to send you my sincere condolences to you and your family. How sad that not even 12 weeks after that you have found out that your brother has been battling cancer as well as having stage 2 dementia and it's terminal. 

You have a lot on your shoulders having to look after your brother and I hope you don't feel too isolated. All this is happening while you still need time to grieve the loss of your mam so it can't be easy at all for you and I wanted you to know that our community is there for you and you are welcome to offload here anytime. There is useful information on our website on coping with grief which will explain how there is no right or wrong way to grieve the loss of a loved one, that you might go through a range of feelings and it is normal sometimes to feel overwhelmed. As you are also dealing with looking after a loved one with cancer, we also have a helpful section for family, friends and carers which will give you helpful tips on how to support someone with cancer. It is important too - especially after everything you have been going through in recent months - to take time for yourself even just to breathe a little. It can be hard to find that time to focus on yourself but taking care of yourself will give you a chance to recharge your batteries a little so that you can be there for your brother without feeling totally overwhelmed. 

We're thinking of you during this difficult time Kelly and I will now let our community members come and say hello and share their similar stories with you. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator