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6 years today losing my husband to cancer

victoria2424
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It’s 6 yrs today when I listen to my husband to lung cancer. Which was out of the blue with only 6 months to live . It was such a shock to me and then our young children 15 and 18.  I just struggle on this day on what to do and say .  My youngest daughter now 21 has lovely friends that drop over flowers for her and me .  We go out for the day or just for lunch .  My eldest daughter stays with her girlfriend.  I just struggle with what to say to them I hug them and say how much I love them and how their dad would be proud of them .  We have had quite a few obstacles to cope with and wish he was here to help .  What do other people do in this situation and how do you feel ?  I find it really difficult to still talk about him in the past tenths. 

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    Hi Victoria 2424

    1. I am sorry you lost your husband to this awful disease. I am looking at losing mine too
    2. Re anniversaries of loved ones passing are very hard ...its decades since i lost my parents and each year is slightly different
    3. There is no right or wrong way only your way which sounds a lovely way to be supportive to each other....words are often not needed 
    4. But if you feel you need to get it out why not try writing it down? You may be surprised what comes out 
    5. You might find once you do this you can find a few words that feel right to you...

    Be kind to yourself today and always RB

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    Hi RB

    so sorry to hear that this going to happen to you too.  Very sad .

    But your words are very kind and it’s good to hear this from someone.  I have just wrote some notes on my phone as would like to talk to my children at some point . Its just finding the right moment, I hate to get upset and cry , I actually do not cry much now I feel I have become tough not sure if this is a good thing but it gets me by . 
    Victoria2424

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