Friend has died. We met whilst having chemo together. I'm now feeling anxious about my cancer returning

Hi, I am feeling very wobbly atm following the death of my beautiful friend who died recently aged 40. I met her whilst we were having chemo and her death has triggered me into worrying about ‘C’ coming back. I feel that I need to get things into perspective but feel sad and angry. Just wanted to vent and probably need a good cry but dealing with family issue atm and need to be strong. Isn’t it hard sometimes! My plan is to go to the gym in a bit but I am feeling sorry for myself and cba!

Rant over, have a good day x

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat, BerylGladys although I’m sorry to hear about the reason that brings you here.

    Losing someone you shared such a profound experience with like going through chemotherapy together can understandably bring up a whirlwind of emotions. Feeling anxious about the cancer returning, wobbly, or even just overwhelmed are natural reactions. With that in mind, there is a page  from our website that covers the grief process I wanted to share with you. It talks through the various stages you might experience, like numbness, sadness, anger, or guilt, and reassures that what you're feeling is both normal and shared by many others.

    Hopefully other forum members who are going through similar process will come along shortly to offer support.

    Last but not least, take one step at a time and remember we’re here for you whenever you need a chat.

    Warm wishes,
    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator