Welcome to the forum SLFord although I'm very sorry to hear your mum was diagnosed with advanced pancreatic cancer last year. 

So many of our members know how challenging it can be to cope with the thoughts and feelings this situation can cause so you are not alone SLFord and hopefully some of them will stop by soon to share their experiences and advice.

I hope this information I've found about anticipatory grief will provide you with some strength and comfort as well but in the meantime, we're thinking of you SLFord and sending all our support at this very difficult time.

Best wishes to you both,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

hi

I am so sorry to hear of the diagnosis of pancreatic cancer for your mum.

I lost my mum in May this year age 68 to advanced bone, liver and stomach cancer after weeks of missed phone calls and desperate messages from my dad her next of kin saying he had something important to talk to me about, I ignored his requests as decided it was nothing so serious ''denial of it possibly being my mum becoming poorly'' she sadly passed away in hospital on 7th May and was buried in a catholic church service surrounded by her family, close friends and loved ones who knew my mum well. I have visited my mums burial place in Altrincham on her 69th birthday recently and spent quiet time at her burial site, sometimes I just wish people would just check in on how I am feeling living without my mum as I often think about her and wish I could contact her when I need to but I can't, the only comfort I have is that she is at peace in heaven having fulfilled her life.

Time is a great healer.