My amazing step dad sadly lost his fight with cancer a few weeks ago. My mum took it hard and has stayed away from their home since. My sister three days after he passed went in their home and took things, photos off the wall and hung empty frames back, went through their things, took things of my mums. My mum is broken by this. My sister admitted to my mum and just texted sorry but basically tough.
my mum had always said she would go through things and if there were things, reasonable things then she would give to her. But my sister stole. Two of my step dads family blame this on grief but it’s the fourth time she’s stole from them and feels worse that my step dads been robbed in death this time. I got told by my step aunt he would want to forgive her, and yes eventually but he’d be devastated by this and would be angry not just say it’s ok. She’s getting away with things again because she pretends to be sad. She didn’t visit him for months because he wouldn’t pay her to see him, she always took and took all she could. She’d punch him when she couldn’t get her own way. My stepdad was only speaking to her in the end because my mum and brother told him too. His answer was if we fall out, we fall out, I don’t care I’m dying I don’t have to deal with her.
my sisters husband has decided to have a go since I contscted police & solicitors & asked for possessions back, he’s been very abusive to me. It’s been awful trying to grieve when they are awful people. They like when family are at end of life they somehow always suddenly want to know the person, then enjoy the attention it brings when they die.
my step dad said she would start he told me to keep my cool and don’t let people hurt me. He loved me as his own, we had a really close special bond, he was the best dad to me even though we were step he hated that word, he said I was his daughter and that was that. He asked me why my sister couldn’t be kind like me, why I would travel weekly to see him, talk daily and do it because I wanted to when she lived down the road and made excuses till it got to the end of life part she likes.
im dreading the funeral now, im so angry that i want to scream at my sister but i do not want to belittle myself to her level or disgusting behaviour. I thought we could all get through this as a family but all I’ve got is nastiness. It’s painful as it is without this additional challenges.
I’ve been told I’m not family because he wasn’t my bio dad, apparently im jealous of her being his blood and my brothers bond, but my brothers adopted so he’s no different to me, we’re not bio related, yet my stepdad loved us all and we were all his children. I’m not and never was jealous of them I was angry with the way she treated him like dirt. my brother in law told me I’m lucky he hasn’t got police on me because I abused my stepdad, but I didn’t, I loved him, cared for him. The last few days of his life I was there with the nurse, comforting him and found as they told me to keep him calm and safe, I sat holding his hand as they had to put a catheter in, telling him he was safe, what they were doing. Stopping him falling. I am disgusted with my brother in laws behaviour, my step dad hated him.
im so hurt, my mental health isn’t the best as it is but now im struggling more.
