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Feeling lost - my partner passed away from lung cancer late last year

DianeS39
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My partner was diagnosed with lung cancer in October . we went away on a short break before his chemo started in December he got pneumonia and passed away on the 10th 
So many ups and downs, 

I don’t know what to do, people say so things when you ready . How do you know when you ready? It’s driving me crazy being in the house , alone. I’m thinking of going back to work, but then panic about it. 
 everyone thinks I’m coping but I don’t believe I am and don’t want to put more stress on family and friends by telling them!! 

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  • Hi DianeS39,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, this must be incredibly difficult and a lot to be dealing with.

    I can understand it is difficult to speak to those close to you. Hopefully this forum can be of some support to you in this regard - a safe space to write things down and to connect with others, who may have experienced something similar.

    Take things as slow as you need to, and one day (or less) at a time. If work feels daunting at the moment, you can start with smaller activities and build up to it. This could include something as simple as going for a 5-minute walk.

    It's important to speak to others about how you're feeling, as this can often help and it means you can get some support. If it's difficult to speak to family and friends, please use this forum as much as is helpful for you.

    It may also be worth looking at the organisation Cruse, who offer various online resources as well as a helpline and also links to local support options.

    Take care of yourself and wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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  • Hi DianeS39,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, this must be incredibly difficult and a lot to be dealing with.

    I can understand it is difficult to speak to those close to you. Hopefully this forum can be of some support to you in this regard - a safe space to write things down and to connect with others, who may have experienced something similar.

    Take things as slow as you need to, and one day (or less) at a time. If work feels daunting at the moment, you can start with smaller activities and build up to it. This could include something as simple as going for a 5-minute walk.

    It's important to speak to others about how you're feeling, as this can often help and it means you can get some support. If it's difficult to speak to family and friends, please use this forum as much as is helpful for you.

    It may also be worth looking at the organisation Cruse, who offer various online resources as well as a helpline and also links to local support options.

    Take care of yourself and wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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