Struggling

Mum was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer stage 4 in early sept and within 2 weeks she passed away. The grief is all consuming and i just don’t see how I will cope. I know I will go through many stages of grief but right now it’s ripping me apart. Her funeral is on Thursday and I’m dreading saying goodbye and trying to deal with all the family. 18 months we had a party to celebrate her 80th and from such a happy time to this within that time hurts so much. Love you mum x

  • Hello Billyw18

    I'm sorry to hear that you've recently lost your Mum. Undoubtedly this will have been a difficult time for you and I hope that the funeral went smoothly yesterday. 

    Grief is a natural process but it can be devastating. It's natural to feel overwhelmed by things at times and to wonder how you will ever get through this. 

    I know that many of our forum members will understand the pain of the loss that you've been feeling. I also know that some of our members have found it really helpful to have support from a bereavement service whilst they have been learning to live with their grief. If this is something that you think you may want to explore I'd suggest having a look at the websites for Cruse and also for Marie Curie. If your Mum had any input from hospice during those last weeks then it may be that they also are able to offer bereavement support. 

    I hope that in the coming days and weeks Billlyw18 you're able to hold on to those happy memories of your Mum. They will certainly help to sustain you through this difficult time. 

    Keep in touch here on the Cancer Chat forum if it helps to have a safe space to put down inwriting how you're feeling. We're here to listen and offer any support we can. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator