I lost my mum to cancer

I lost my mum on the 25th August.  We only found out 3 weeks before that she had lung cancer then s week later got told was I. Liver to.  Then another 2 weeks after that she was swelling with water got taken into hospital was getting worse  on the Friday we got told it was small cell.   And on the Saturday night at 10 to midnight she suffered a cardiac arrest  and didn't come back.   I'm so lost  I don't want to go on with my life  I miss her so much. I have 2 beautiful  kids. But I just feel so lost and angry and hurt.  I just don't want to be here anymore   I go to mums grave everyday as I used to go visit everyday. 

  • Welcome to the Cancer Chat forum Helensdaughter although I am so sorry to hear about your mum. You have my sincerest and most heartfelt condolences for your loss.

    Loosing your mum in such a short space of time must have been incredibly heart-breaking. I can't even begin to imagine what you and your family must have gone through, but please don't give up. I know you're feeling lost and angry and hurt right now, and you have every right to be, but you have two wonderful children who love you and need you. I'm sure your mum would not want you to be thinking like this either. I know it's going to be tough, and very painful, but for the moment just try to take things one minute, hour, or day at a time. Do whatever you need to do to get you through each day.

    With things being so difficult at the moment I wonder if it may help to talk to someone about what you are going through? If you haven't done so already, it may be worth booking an appointment with your GP to talk things through. They are there to listen and will do all they can to support you. 

    The Samaritans are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week on 116 123 if you ever need someone to talk to at those times of the day or night when no-one else is around. They will help you talk about what you're going through and offer extra support when you need it most.

    There are also bereavement charities such as Cruse and Sue Ryder who offer grief support and in the case of the latter, free online counselling to anyone who is struggling to cope with their loss so if you feel this may help you at this time, don't hesitate to reach out to them for help and support.

    Coping with grief is very tough but I can see you've already found someone on the forum who is also on this journey. I hope you can take some strength, and comfort, from knowing that you are not alone Helensdaughter, and I hope some of our other members who have been through this will be along soon to offer you their support and advice.

    We're here for you Helensdaughter and thinking of you at this very challenging time.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator