HI Shaz,

I am so very sorry to hear about your mum and I offer my sincere sympathy. I faced a similar situation with my own mum and know just how hard it was. Hers was primary breast cancer, which spread to her liver, lungs, bone and brain. You are right about talking, even though it is hard on an open ward.  You will find that it is still important to talk, now that she is no longer with you. If you bottle things up, it only gets harder to cope with. Do you have any support from family or friends? It can be helpful to talk to them about happier times.

I found it comforting to place a nice picture of my mum in a prominent part of the house, where I passed by a few times throughout the day and I often found myself talking to her, especially in the early days, after we lost her. Grief is a very individual thing and we all deal with it in our own time. They say that it gets easier with time, but I think that we just learn to live with our loss. There is always so much to do after someone dies, that it is not until the funeral is over, that you really have time to start the grieving process. There are different stages of this too, so be kind to yourself and take each day as it comes.

Please keep in touch and remember, that we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx