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Struggling with the grief of my mum’s death

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My mum passed away 9 years ago, will be coming up 10 years this January. I was 12 years old. I’m now 21 and I obviously miss her everyday, it’s just when grief hits me hard. I can’t seem to stop crying and I don’t know what to do because I know no amount of crying will  bring her back but I can’t seem to stop. I feel weak, some anger and pain when the grief hits me. I’m just really struggling with the grief of mum and I don’t really know what to do. 

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    The type of cancer she passed away from was brain cancer. 

  • Hello Dancer_22,

    I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling. The loss of a parent at such a young age must have been devastating and you're right to feel all these emotions, but the important thing is to be kind to yourself, as it's ok to let those emotions out sometimes. There is no finite end to grief, but there is information on coping with grief on our website. Cruse also offers bereavement support if you'd like to speak to someone. You can call for free on 0808 808 1677. Lines are open Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday from 9.30am-5pm and Tuesdays from 1pm – 8pm. Talking about your feelings is key, so don't be afraid to turn to people close to you or to bereavement support and the forum is always here for you whenever you need it. 

    I hope this helps in some small way,

    Moderator Anastasia

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    I’m so sorry you’re struggling, I’d take a guess that 9 years doesn’t actually feel that long? It’s only been 10 weeks since I lost my dad from glioblastoma and I have good days and bad days. It hit me hard this week as it’s starting to sink in. I don’t think I’ll ever get over it but in time I’ll just learn to live with it. 

    Take care x

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