Struggling with the loss of my Dad

Hi, Im new to this and Im not even sure what I will get from this. Maybe I just need to vent. I lost my Dad 3 months ago to a brain tumour. He was only 66, fit and healthy, no health problems at all. Then start of March he has what we thought was a stroke... It turned out to be a brain tumour. The next 9 weeks were, well hell. He was in and out of hospital, we found out it was a glioblastoma and nothing could be done. He then fell ill with pneumonia so any treatment to prolong his time with us was cut short. He then suffered another seizure which he didnt really come back from, we got some words from him. We were then told it was time for hospice and he may have 2 weeks to live. 

How from 7 weeks ago he was fixing my car, popping over for a cuppa to see his granddaughter, helping his grandson fix his bike... Has it come to this.

I cant help but see him how he was those last 2 weeks, that wasnt my dad, it shouldn't have been him.

Everyone says in time things will be better, he is out of pain. But nothing makes me feel better. I wake every morning thinking it's not real... Then realise it is.

How can an illness be so so cruel  

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  • So sorry to hear this, I can relate. My dad was full of life, fit and healthy but on Mother’s Day he lost control of his right side. Fast forward a month he was in for surgery which we were then told it was glioblastoma. Our lives were turned upside down! 

    We finally got him home the day after his birthday and seemed to be great but he caught an infection / COVID and ultimately passed away on the 9th July.

    He was 67 and didn’t deserve it like others in this group. The worst part for us is living in the present after the funeral, wake etc…just so quiet, eerie and unable to gain any motivation to do anything. It’s going to take a hell of a long time to just process it. As you mentioned it really does seem surreal sometimes 

    Sending you strength and support, it’s a horrible disease 

  • Gosh im so sorry. It really is so cruel isnt it. Dad got covid whilst in hospital but had no symptoms, then day 10 of covid he caught and phuemonia, he came home for 2 days and went downhill from then. 

    It does seem like its going to take a very long time. Sending you strength and support also.

  • Thank you. Yes it’s very cruel. I think the biggest thing I’m struggling with is how quick glioblastoma actually takes a hold! I’m pleased he knew who we all were and that we all loved him but from diagnosis to passing was 4 month's.

    Take care 

  • Very similar to us, it was 2 months. Its just so hard to understand it.

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