hello all... I don't really know what to say. Or if anyone will even read this!! But I am in need of help!

My wonderful Mum died quite suddenly of cancer in December 2017. I believe she was ill for a month or two (it was kept a secret at first) but then she hit a decline and passed away.

We as a family, my Mum, my Dad, sister and me were all really close as a family and always had been, so when she died it was catastrophic. 

My sister had not long had a baby, so I took time off work to care for mum with my dad before she died. Afterwards, I stayed with my dad in the family home to help him prepare for the funeral and helped with other necessities that come after someone had passed away.

After 6 months I went back to work. I found it hard to leave my dad as he was now alone inside the house he shared with his wife. 

Since then, he has taken to drinking and let the home decline. He doesn't seem to be looking after himself at all. My sister and I have approached this with him in a number of ways, however he just seems to accept that this is now the way he is and if he dies he dies. 

We don't want that!! He has two beautiful grandchildren that he dotes after.. and we want him to be around as long as possible for them too!!

He uses his time by painting and working on the garden, but his house is a mess and not safe for the grandkids to visit, and he wants to host meals but he is shaking, tools everywhere... its not nice.

I LOVE cleaning and so does my sister and we have offered to do it head to toe, he says no. I said I would pay for a cleaner but he doesn't want a stranger in the house.. We have said does he want to downsize he says no (understandable) but it a 4 bed house and its so big!

PLEASE....can someone, anyone help as to how to approach this.. he agrees with me at the time that he needs to change or get help but nothing happens.  

Any guidance would be amazing.

Thank you