I lost my Dad 5 years ago when i was 14 nearly 15. It was an awful experience and im still not coping, i even attempted to take my own life. I was wondering if you had any tips,
I'm so very sorry to hear about the loss of your Dad. It's difficult to lose a parent at any age but often more so when you were still so young.
Grief is a natural process but it can be devastating and can leave us experiencing a whole rollercoaster of emotions and sometimes can be very difficult to cope with.
What kind of support do you have around you DaddyImissyou? I hope that you have a supportive family or group of friends that are there if you need them. Having that close group of people around you can be of real support when you're struggling.
It also often helps to talk to someone outside of our immediate family and friends and I'd really encourage you to seek some professional support to help you with your grief and particularly the intrusive thoughts that you're feeling about ending your own life.
In the first instance making an appointment to talk with your family Dr is a good start. They will be able to talk things through with you and arrange any support that may be appropriate to try and help improve things for you. Please do give your GP surgery a call and make that appointment.
You might also like to have a look at the Irish Hospice Foundation website which has information about the bereavement support services they offer. I'd also recommend looking at the Sue Ryder website which has lots of information that you may find helpful.
I also want to give you this link to Samaritans Ireland who are available 24/7 365 days a year. There is always a listening ear available to offer support.
You've made the first step in asking for help by posting here on the Cancer Chat forum. I hope that you can continue to move forwards now and seek the help you need from your GP and those around you.
I'm sorry to hear that you're still feeling so low and struggling at the moment.
I'm glad that you've taken on board some of the suggestions that we gave you at the beginning of last month. That was a brave step in the right direction. Even when we reach out for help to manage our grief, it can still take quite some time before things start to feel better and it can be difficult to be patient and stick with the support when we don't see immediate results.
I'd really encourage you to make another appointment to talk with your GP about how you're feeling and to discuss ways that you can manage your mood. It may be that there are other things going on for you that make it difficult to do the grief work right now. Your GP should be able to help with this.
Don't forget that Samaritans Ireland is available 24/7 365 days a year and they are always available to listen.
I hope that things start to improve for you soon.
Sending my best wishes, Jenn Cancer Chat moderator
Have you any other suggestions because my gp has said there is nothing else they can do and im at the end of my tether and i have no other options only you, ive tried counselling but its just not working. Im really struggling like never before and i have had a few bereavements and none of them have hit me as this one has
I'm so sorry to hear that you're struggling at the moment and that despite reaching out for help and support from your GP and through counselling you feel as if nothing is working.
I don't know how long you've been having counselling or how many sessions you've had but I know that with lots of talking therapies, things can often get worse before they get better. When you start to look at the situation more closely it can often bring difficult feelings and thoughts back to the surface and this can result in patients feeling like the counselling isn't working. I'd really encourage you to talk with your counsellor about this. It's important for the therapeutic relationship that you're honest and hopefully they will be able to support you with finding ways to move forward.
I'm sorry that your GP has said there is nothing else they can do. It's a bit difficult to comment on that but maybe there is another Dr at the practice you can talk with that may be more supportive of helping you to manage your mental health. It may be that they feel some short-term medications are an option but I'd certainly explain to them how you've been feeling and about the thoughts that you've had previously regarding ending your life.
It can be so difficult when you reach out for help and support but don't feel that anything is forthcoming or that what is offered doesn't work. It can be easy at that point to give up but please don't. As difficult as it may be, it's about finding the right support from the right people and I'm sure that you will find that. Don't forget that there are some links that I've given you in previous posts for online and telephone support options.
Take things one day at a time and be kind to yourself.
